Hi, I don't know about anyone else but I was going to go back to work when my daughter was only 6 weeks old but decided not to & as much as I have loved being an at home mum for the past 3 & half years I wish I had have gone back because now that I want to go back I am finding it really hard to gain employment so my suggestion to you is jump at the chance to get you carree back.

Believe me you won't regret it because look at me now I have been out of work for so long now I think I am fast approaching an unemployable age, also I have no up to date skills, so if you do decide to stay home try & get up to date skills so when you do go back to work you will be able to get a job hopefully no worries.

Don't feel bad about missing a few thing in your sons life because in the long run you are providing for him & his future.

Good luck

Sounds like it is going to be a really good job for you.

Missing milestones probably won't happen.  Babies tend to save them for their parents any ways.

Feeling as though you are going to miss something is perfectly normal.  If he does reach milestones while you are at work, then let the carer of your boys know that you don't want them to tell you.  That way, the first time you see them really will be the first in your mind.

The first thing you need to ask yourself is "Do I want to work?". 

After the birth of my first daughter I was back at work when she was 5 mths, I needed to work.  I don't feel that I missed out, the first time I saw her walk was the same day that my parents (who cared for her 5 days a week) saw her walk.  But in saying that, I'm currently on maternity leave with my 2nd daughter (she is now 6 mths) and I love being home this time and haven't even thought of going back to work.

Talk to your prespective employer and see if any arrangements can be made for shorter working hours or a couple days a week or even working from home.

Unfortunately, it is a choice only you can make and you'll make the right decision.  Good luck.

Hi Is there any chance either getting smaller hours or just a couple days a week?  Maybe if they asked you they may keep the job open for when you feel ready.  My little boy is 6 months old as well and I couldnt' leave him but in saying that I have 2 older children and I worked when they were little but not as young as that.  i put them into family day care not sure if you have that around you but normally you can put them in a home and not in a centre i found that was great.

Hope you get some good ideas

Nikki

hello

i put my kids in day care not sure if you going to do this ready for me to go back to work my oldest was 2 and my youngest was about 7 mnths  and i was looking for work they started to cry all the time and not liking it and like you i didnt want a stranger seeing my youngest walk before me so i didnt end up going back to work and i kept them home ,but it also depends if you have a partner to support you too and if you need the money see my hubby works so i think it varys good luck if you take it

belxxx

Hi - there are thousands of mums that return to work shortly after bubs is born. You really have to decide whether this is an opportunity that you can or cannot afford to lose - not just the money  - personal satisfaction, self worth etc are all important issues.

No matter which way you go, you will always have some regrets - either regretting a missed opportunity, or regretting missing one of their milestones. As parents, we always seem to miss one - even if we are with them 24/7 - the one time you leave them with someone else they will do something new.

You have to balance what is right for the family environment as a whole. Will there be other opportunities down the track, does this offer the opportunity for a better life for the family. I work from home now, but I still miss the occasional milestone.

Sorry I cannot be more specific - but it really is a 'what will be best for the family in the long term' question which only you can answer.

good luck