Bullies are probally just jealous talk to your daughter ask here how it stared tell her to confront the bullies they will soon back off if not get advice from the teacher ask them what they are going to do about it  if they wont do any thing get them done for harrasing your daughter

Firstly, your daughter is the stronger person here and this is not her fault.

Also, bullying in teen girls at this age is common, I went through it and just ditched the friends that were treating me this way.  Meant I was friendless for the most part, but I did finish year12 and did also leave that schoolgirl nonsense behind.

It is tough going, and my circumstances were very different.  You can always minti mail les and see if he has any helpful suggestions.

Girls are so cruel. The school I went to, a supposedly good private one at that, one of the girls had a nervous breakdown and one of the teachers did too a few years later, and the crap from the kids at school was what tipped them both over the edge. The poor girl has been in a special care home for the past 20 years since.

I copped the same crap at school and I dealt with it by retreating to a quiet secluded sheltered spot on a step near the science block, and not associating in any way with anyone at school. I'd stick my nose in a book and ignore them all. I got dubbed a huge snob, but I was dammed if I was going to bust my butt playing their stupid social popularity games.

All my friends I knew from out of school. Keeping away from the gossipy bullshit and other kids at school allowed me extra time to study (what else is there to do when ya got no friends?) and concentrate on getting through the part of school that the teachers and government consider more important - the academic side of it. The social side of school be dammed. They could say what they liked and I didn't care because I knew my out-of-school friends were true friends and worth knowing.

I still don't have anything to do with anyone from my school, haven't seen any of them for so long I'm starting to count it in decades now. I refused to go to my school re-union. My out-of-school friends from back then I'm still friends with now, because they were true friends.

What goes on at school doesn't really matter in the long run because once those kids hit the real world they'll suddenly find that all the games they played there just don't apply in the real world. They'll go from being the cream of the crop, top dog, and miss popularity to nobody special, the bottom of the social food chain, the inexperienced runts.

Your daughter has only the rest of this year to go. It's only 7more months. She can survive it. It might be very helpful for her if she can get involved in an out-of-school activity where she can make friends that don't go to her school so she still has some peer support there for her. There really isn't a lot anyone can do about the other girls at school. Physical bullying is easier to deal with, but emotional and mental stuff is harder to prove and harder to stop. The teacher can lecture those girls until they are blue in the face and they won't ever listen.

If your daughter can knuckle down and keep her nose in a book on a sheltered step and ignore the gossip she will get the last laugh, when years down the track the kids that gave her grief have gotten no where in life because they were too busy stuffing around with everyone else's.

And when you're all feeling down about it, watch the movie Romy and Michelle's High School Reunion. It's a daggy movie, but it's a good light-hearted laugh about the exact type of situation your daughter is in where the good girls win in the long run.

Hi, I really feel for your daughter. She does not need this in her final year! It is not fair on her. You would think that all the kids would have the same goal of finishing high school and getting great jobs by now and would have stopped all this pettiness.

I have a 17yr old daughter in year 12 as well but thankfully she has moved to a beatiful new high school where she is supported and encouraged by all.

But that said, I do have a 14yr old that is being bullied in the same way at the moment so maybe I can share what we have done and you may get some ideas.

Even though our high school (my daughters go to two different high schools) has a no tolerance to bullying it still happens. Constantly. My daughter has had to cope with whole classrooms ganging up on her and calling her names when she walks in the room and playgroung antics that would make you so angry.

I fought the school all the way! I let the student services staff know what was happening and they spoke to my daughter to find out who was doing this. They then proceeded to speak to each and every one of the kids and explain that what they were doing was not going to be tolerated. That stopped it for a little while.

I got my daughter to make contact with the school chaplain. We are not religious people but this has helped her immensley (sp!) By talking to the chaplain about what was happening he was then able to help her through it and arranged for whole classes to be spoken to and has given talks on the 'worst case scenario' outcomes of bullying.

This guy has helped her so much with mediating between her and the kids, the school and teachers. I am so happy that she has someone to talk to. He even started up recess and lunch activities to help out. My daughter now has somewhere to go when the going gets tough and she has someone on her side at the school to fight for her rights to a hassle free education.

I wont say that all is well and she is having no hassles now. But I can say that she now goes to school everyday and gets through the day with minimal fuss. When the kids that she is having trouble with start on her she has learnt coping strategies to get her through it. It's all I can do for her. I would love to be by her side every hour of the school day to stop these bullies but since I can't I have a wonderful person at school that can be there for her.

I hope you get some resolve, and fast, as your daughter will need all the help she can get to get through this last and hardest year of her schooling. My thoughts are with you and your family on this one as I know how hard it is to get the help you need in this situation.

If I think of anything else I will let you know. I will talk to my daughter this afternoon when she gets home from school and ask her if maybe there is anything else that has been done that has helped her.

Good luck