Ok..Im looking at this from a complete different angle to the others here so here goes..

I firstly, would be more concerned about his comment of feeling tied down. Why? I would be taking that as that he just cant be bothered with your feelings and emotions. Is he just brushing them aside and hoping you will wake up tomorrow and be happy? He doesnt have to like it but he does need to respect it and be supportive..providing you of course are trying to overcome these feelings.

Secondly, the shower/play session..I was once feeling this too but when I questioned mine, he explained that sometimes (regardless of how many times they get the real deal) sometimes they just need the "release' and cant be bothered with all the other stuff usually involved when there is the two of us. He explained that I wouldnt be too happy be interupted and asked to "u know" while bathing kids, cooking tea and all that stuff..when he can just do it himself and be back in 5 to help me with the chores...hell yeah, go for it! It would have absolutely nothing to do with you.

As for the pictures, well thats a personal choice. I dont think it would make any woman feel great knowing their partners were all crowed around a pc perving on slappers in unrealistic poses. I guess you should tellhim your views and see what happens.

Hope to have been some help, goodluck with it all!

My advice would be to tell him that he doesn't need all that adult material when you are around because you are more than happy to meet his needs.

Sounds to me like there is more to it than what you have written.

You could tell him that you will 'help' him in the shower.  Might be good for both of you.  You could also check out the pics he is looking at and see what it is that attracts him to them.  Some of them can be shocking, but even looking at them together could be good for both of you.  I'll just make an appointment for you at the eye doctor though.

My partner a few years back was given some adult magazines, but I looked through them with him.  He isn't usually interested in that sort of thing, or more to the point, doesn't buy them himself, but it was certainly an eye opener to see what men really wanted to see.  I think it shocked him though, 'cos now, he prefers my 4x post baby (soon to be 5) body instead! lol.

Any way, looking through them together, we were actually discussing what we were seeing and it was a very important bonding experience.

Communication is the key to any relationship, and if your man refuses to talk, then he ain't got that key.

Good luck, and I hope that you can reach an agreement on 'chores' soon, for him and for you!

Hey,

That wasnt a nice thing for hubby to say to you, but he obviously doesnt know how you feel and you need to tell him. Dont feel silly to tell him, cos if he doest know you dont like him doing these things, then he will cotinue to do them. My partner knows he isnt allowed to watch porn, i will not allow it my house, nor will i tolerate him sitting at work watching it on peoples fones. Once i told him i dont like it, he never did it. Im not sure if he did before i met him, but he sure doesnt now.

He wasnt angry when i told himi didnt want him watching that stuff, he actually agreed and said he wouldnt anyway because he has me and doesnt need that.

Personally i find them looking at porn and stuff is degrading, it makes me feel "am i not good enough"??

Just have a talk with him, im sure you will work it out. As for him playing with himself, thats just somethign guys do, if my partner does it i dont know, i would only be offended if he did it while looking at other girls. Im 32 weeks pregnant and have only had sex 3times which was at the start lol, so im sure my partner is sexually frustrated and if he wants to play with himself i dont care lol, as long as he aint getting off on something.

I hope you can work this out, and you dont need to get over it all, he needs to understand it makes you feel shitty.

Dannii xxo

ok, i mean no offence, but here i go.

put your foot down, if you are uncomfortable with him doing that stuff, if its making you feel crappy about yourself. it has to stop. he obviously has NO respect for you, knowing you dont like it. My husband was the same, and when i found out i kicked his ass out the house (to me it's unfaithfulness) and when he came back he knew if he did it again id chop it off.(well, you get my drift,) If your up to getting into it with him, thats fine, but it has to be both your decsions. dont let him "force you" (meaning dont feel you have to.) Yoiu need to realise your WAY better than that and and if thats something your not into, if thats mking you feel crappy about yourself, you need to tell him what for and he he doesnt respect that, im sorry but you need to start thinking about wht your relationship is about.i realise you love him, dont want to break up with him, but are you prepared to keep yourself in a relationship that is all about him and nothing about you?  im really sorry you feel like you just have to get over it.

you being a moody person, for whatever reason, does not mean he gets to do that. would you allow him to go sleep with a prostitute cause your moody?

sorry if this sounds harsh, but i have been here, and it almost broke me, so im a little touchy on the subject. give your self a bit more respect.

Im thinking of you, and im aways here, just minti mail me

If it makes you uncomfortable, then you need to tell him that. My partner never says things like that, so i dont really know how i would approach the situation.. However i have been on you tube and seen our recent activity list and was shocked to see that he is looking at girls bums and jelly wresting etc... I didnt say anything about it because i know that men are visual creatures. I think if it were hardcore porn i would have brought it up, but i guess it depends on what sort of pics you are talking about.

If you want to spice it up and direct his attention to you... Maybe you could send him a few naughty msg's while he is at work. Or even send him a pic of his favourite part of your body... My partner and i dont see each other thru the week, so every now and then we do this... Just like phone sex, but with pics LOL It adds a little something different to our relationship and it really is fun!!

So that is my suggestion... try to get the attention back to you.

id be pissed too, do u let him know u want to be intamate? maybe try spice things up and dress kinky or something? i think you n him need to talk about it.. communication is the key and be open minded hear him out too. if its hard to talk to him try writting a letter