Does he understand that certain areas of our bodies stretch during child birth?  What did he think would happen, you'd go into labour and bubs would pop out your belly button?  I wish!  Sorry, but sometimes men just don't understand what really happens, I knew a guy who thought babies came from our belly buttons.  Boy, wasn't he shocked when his first son was born, needed hospitalization too! lol.

Ok, putting serious face on again.  Trying to.... Forget it, I can be serious, just not with that mask on.

It sounds to me more like the issue is with how you took what he said.  Let it go, he was at least being honest, and it does take a little while for our bodies to recover from child birth.

There is a very neat way of helping to tone up those stretched muscles.  While having sex, squeeze them around him, hold it, relax and keep doing it.  This not only feels good for you, but also for him.  It also helps to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which is always a good thing.

Sit down with him and talk about how he made you feel by him saying that.  The fact that he says you are back to normal, well, as normal as you can be after child birth, would suggest he is happy with your fit.

Find some intimacy before heading to the bedroom.  New and interesting places you already have the hang of, so try things like massage, showering together or just talking.

Can you get a babysitter for the weekend? How about you and hubby go away for a romantic weekend where you can both relax and hopefully reignite the spark! It's good for couples to also have a date every week/fortnight/month, whatever you can schedule, so that the two of you can spend time quality time alone without the stress of kids.

He may have been too embarassed to admit that what he said when drunk was true and afraid that you'd get upset. It's a sad fact, but it is true, that for a while after birth things are a little bit stretched down there. After all, look at the size of what came out! Pelvic floor exercises help but it still takes a while. Don't feel bad about that, it's normal, happens to all of us.

As for him being tired from work, it's probably true. Us women can perform when exhausted far better than a guy can. And we're better at it than guys are when drunk too! LOL He might just need some time out. Having a baby to worry about as well certainly wouldn't be helping him relax in any way either. Guys can be very stubborn about worrying about looking after their family, they stress about it and whether or not they are doing a good job, providing for the family well enough, etc. Stress like that added to stress from work, added to long hours, and yeah, guys get exhausted.

Generally speaking, with most guys, when they give an answer to something, don't go trying to dig deep for more understanding into their psychology. Women say they feel tired when really they feel depressed, anxious, sick, and all manner of other things. When a guy says he's tired, chances are, he's tired. That's why guys get frustrated and say they don't understand women. They don't dig deeper because they don't understand why it is when they ask what is wrong women don't just come straight out with it, and they don't know what they're supposed to say when women expect a more complicated answer from them.

Might do well to see if you can find a way to give him a time out, send him on a long weekend vacation away from it all where he can laze around on a beach or something for a couple of days. ???

hi ... it could be that he really is just tired ..i am 30 and the mother to three boys under ten and have been married for ten years and we both just get tired ....my advise would be to not read to much into it..........let him come to you ............. get bubs babysat............surprise him  ......new baby.........work and finacial worries all attack the male brain and i also feel somtimes it can make us worry about ourselves when our man is holding back in the bedroom.............but we never think twice about saying no to them, all the time......... oh the kids honey ..............oh im tired ...............oh it's that time of the month, but we come aorund eventually and im sure he will too.............hope it helps

read my advice on sex after baby.

it might be that he is scared of another baby.

but also your u know what as u put it does go really big after bubs birth. it takes alot of hard work to put it right again. do your pelvic floor muscles.

he also might be ashamed of what he drunkinly said. let it go for a bit, and try again soon.