The best way you can move on is to get your own counseling and get involved with activities outside of the home.

Time is the only thing that will really help you to move on.  And please don't listen to what others around you are saying, trust in your own instincts, they are the ones that count.

Any time you want extra support, just minti mail me.  Ok, so its getting harder for me to spend hours at the computer, but I can do my best to help you out.

Yeah, mostly, you need to stop letting everyone else plant those seeds in your head.  Weed them out before they really start causing more problems for you.  TRUST IN YOURSELF!

I have been here before myself. (exactly the same words yes there was another woman even though he denied it)

The best advice I can give you is get personal counselling yourself. On your own. 

I know its painful, but you have to give yourself time, put the focus on you from now on. Give yourself time to pull through as cruel as it may sound but don't focus on his needs or wants as much now. He has made it clear on how he feels.

All the emotions that you are feeling is normal its called the greiving process, its not as though someone has died but it is very close to it. You may be morning the loss of your former life. Thats how it was put to me and it made a loit of sense.

Another thing I did was read a book called 7 ways to heal your life by Louise Hay fantastic book and It felt as though she was talking to me personally. All I could think was how did she know that I was feeling that way?? Anyway, I hope this helps and I hope you have a very close friend that you can talk to and help you through this.

Take care

This is going to take time, so don't be too hard on yourself. It is still very fresh and I didn't properly move on with my life till I moved out properly and a proper routine or resolve is worked out. It takes time to get used to the new situation. It is a big upheaval for the whole family and an emotional time. I just want to say that I empathise as I have been through it too. It gets easier and guess what? One day you will look at him and not feel any pain anymore, just nothing. I know I can do that now. I don't hate him but I definately have no feelings and when he has a new partner it does not bring up any feelings in me. That will happen. At the moment just the thought of him having someone else is bothering you. Mind you I have moved on in my life now and have another partner. It didn't just happen, it took a long time to move on, so good luck. If you want to mail me too, you can. Any time and I will get back as soon as I can, Lynette xx

My ex looked me in the eye & told me nothing had gone on with the woman he left me for too. It was a lie. Your husband might be telling the truth, but there's always the chance he is not. Some people, though, do fall out of love, so to speak. I think you can believe him when he says he still cares for you.

Don't dwell on what he may or may not have done. The fact that you are on good terms is great but give yourself some distance to get over him, too. It isn't going to be easy - you will have plenty more good & bad days, but after a while the good days will outweigh the bad. Things will get better, remind yourself of that. I've been through what you are going through so do understand. Just take things one day at a time. I'm sure I'm not the only one in minti to go through what you're going through & we are all happy to help you so ask advice anytime you need, or contact through minti mail.

You will be OK, hang in there hun.