I have to say, none of my children are showing signs of ADD or ADHD.  I'll get back to you on the ODD (had to read one of the answers further down to see what it is)! lol.

To me, they are all pretty frustrating, but the ADHD sounds like the worst.  I think most children are ODD at some point, my four year old is currently back chatting her dad about something as I type this.  ADD can be worked on by one on one concentration time, but ADHD!  Wow!  Lack of being able to sit still would drive me nuts!  The rest I can handle.

In the past (when I was still in primary school- no I'm feeling old) I was part of the buddy program where older children helped the younger grades with school work.  I got a boy who I would have classed as ADD or even ADHD, but within a month, he was actually doing his work because he had one person to help him with it.  He couldn't sit still for long at the start, but we worked on that too, but sitting on the floor so he could stretch out when he needed too.

I think with the ODD you are just going to have to persevere with it, but of course you have the ADHD on top.  Maybe more time playing outside with tricky hand eye coordination tasks might help.  He will have to focus on the task and will be burning off energy at the same time.

You could also try a 'Goals' map, where you and he set goals for him to achieve that have milestones along the way.  Kind of like a rewards chart.

My 14 yr old Step son has ADHD and ODD. For us, I tend to think the ODD is worse. The ADHD can somewhat be controlled by meds. ODD is a tough one. When you say sit , they jump , when you say jump the sit. There are lots of issues with ANYONE in an authoratative role. Many parents are going to read this and think , yeah thats any child you come into contact with. But ODD is above and beyond just normal disobidence. An ODD child will many times put themselves in Danger, Exspecially if you've asked them not to do it.

We have a hard time in school, and at home. He can be very disrespectful and ignorant to the way things are and should be , no matter how many times and different ways we've tried to explain it. It's very frustrating. This does effect him on a social level with peers as well as teachers. Like I said anyone in an authoratative Role. He is more likely to run into problems with teachers, police,bosses, ect.. once he's grown.

I have no miracle advice we are trying to work thru it and figure it out as you are. I wish you the best of luck.

My eldest has ODD & my son has ADHD (though he isn't too bad). I think the ADHD is worse as often needs medication to control & sufferers can do all sorts of damage. ODD is more an argumentative child so it's a battle of wits. You say the sky is blue, an ODD child will argue it's pink, lol. I've seen ADHD kids who are worse than my son & trying to control them can be a real battle.

Many ADHD kids these days are also diagnosed with ODD. It seems to me to go hand in hand as an ADHD child is already defiant, but they now call the defiance part of it ODD. I think they have the 2 classifications as some kids can have the ODD without being ADHD. My daughter was ADD (not ADHD) as well as being ODD. She just had an attention problem, she wasn't hyperactive, so the ODD was a separate thing. Am I making sense to you? I hope so.

Maybe this will be better.....

ADD = Attention Deficit Disorder - sufferers have trouble staying focused on tasks. They are not hypo, their mind wanders.

ADHD = Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder - they lack the attention span as well as being hypo. They do silly things that they themselves cannot understand the reason for (like damage things, jump on furniture, climb things, etc)

ODD = Oppositional Defiance Disorder - child is argumentative, arguing about anything and everything.

When you look at the 3, ADHD would be the worse to handle.

http://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/BHCV2/bhcarticles.nsf/pages/Oppositional_defiant_disorder?Open

is what my hubby found on this. in a nut shell it says go to parenting classes which i thought was wrong cause i know a child like this whos mum is great, i also know a child at school like this who fits all the neglect stuff.

my advice would be to try therpy for your son, only for there might be something he wants to let out but has no idea. we are looking into therpy for my son (he is autistic) so he learns how to control himself better. therpy isnt just for bad things. they are great for kids who just dont know how to control themself and need a different way shown..

I have never heard of ODD before ad thought you have spelt it wrong but my hubby looked it up. my daughter is undiganosed ADHD (cant be bothered arguing with someone wether to medicate my daughter) and if you can find the trigger you can live a happy life. all preservitives and some fruit and veg trigger our daughter. mind you we do still let her have them ocasionally. we all have probs in my house ( hubby ADD, son autistic, daughter ADHD and me bipolar) so we like to have some fun and let the kids be nutty some times.

good luck and if nothing here helps call the ppl who diagnosed him and get them to explain better and give you help. they have to help.