I am an Aunty of 2 wonderful girls aged 8&9 They dont live anyway they stay in motels or friends houses or with me or there nanny. Anyway last time i had my nieces they told me that they get left in motel rooms by themselves while their mother (my sister) goes to work. She is a stripper and god knows what else she does. I want to report it to welfare but dont know how as if my sister finds out i will never get to see the girls again. I did talk to the girls explaining that it is wrong for their mother to do that and to tell their teacher but they are to scared to do so. I know if i dont do something about this and something bad happens i will blame myself please help what do i do?
Definately call DOCS. I understand your fear of not seeing them again, but isn't it better that the children are cared for properly? You can tell DOCS that you are able to take the girls in anyway - if there is a family member who can take a child/ren when taken from parent/s by DOCS then that family member generally gets them. Also, DOCS will not give out your information to the mother so she will not know it was you. If she blames you, you could always say something like maybe the girls said something to a teacher.
It's so sad to see parents like this when there are so many people who would make wonderful parents who cannot have kids! Good luck with it all.
Call Welfare, you can be anon if you want. It would also help if you get some of your family to back you up on this one if you can. Surely they can see what is going on also. These girls need help before it is too late and something really bad happens to either them or their Mother.
A order to keep the mother away would most likely only be awarded if there was a reason why she couldn't see the children, such as violence. Often, when children are taken, the parent/s can still see them, it just depends on the situation.
Hey, First of all id like to say its good to hear that your willing to help your neices help cos they really do need to be taken out of that situation, that it no way for children to have to live. As far as i know or what ive heard is that if you call welfare onto your sister the girls will go to a foster family until someone in the family is proven fit to look after them. I think you need to call somone, maybe social services and tell them the situtaion and that your wiling to be the girls guardian. Then the next time you have them, dont give them back. This may sound mean but if you can get protected from her and protect her girls then why not do it.
Im sorry im not much help but maybe try talking to someone about this and go for custody of the girls. Where is the father? is he fit enough to look after them?
I understand your sister is trying to make money to keep the girls, but strippers are very highly paid an dif she cant even feed and dress her kids then there is no excuse for her.
thanks for the advice i have now rang child protection onto her. I had a feeling everyone would tell me to ring them but I need more encouragemnet to do it as im not a very strong person and dont like to course conflict once again thanks
Thats great to hear your doing something about this. I too would be scared, but when it involves innocent children you have to do something as soon as you can.
I hope everything works out well, your neices are lucky to have such a loving, caring aunty.
These two girls need your help. Ring DOCS. They don't give out any information about who rang. If someone in the family can take them in, then this is where they will be placed. I'm not judging your sister because of her occupation but she's obviously not looking after them and placing them in danger.
thanks after reading all the advice on here and seeing that all said ring someone i finally did it. The child protection is now investigating once agin thanks
In my opinion, whilst i find stripping, exotic dancing etc degrading; sometimes as parents we have to do whatever job is available in order to be able to feed and clothe our children - along with try to provide a roof over their heads.
I don't believe leaving children in motel rooms on their own is a good idea - so i am not condoning this, but when the girls are left with you or their nanny - they are perfectly safe.
You just have to stop and think - if there was no other job in the world apart from stripping, being a tramp, or an exotic dancer - wouldn't you do it to make sure that your kids had food in theiir tummy and a warm bed to sleep in and clothes on their back? I know if i was single and struggling - i would be a hooker or something just to provide for my kids!
Thanks for your opinion I would not have a problem if she was doing the right thing. But she isnt they dont have anything I buy clothes for them every time i have them so does my mum. Sometimes they have no shoes and they have also told me they have spent nights sleeping in the car.
Once again thank all opinions and advice will help me look at this in many ways
Are you or any other family in a position to look after them?Docs usually look within the family before going further.I'd get some professional advice before doing anything...If you do contact docs i'm pretty sure you can call anonymously so your sister needn't know it was you.....I've been in foster care and i'm sure the kids appreciate that someone cares enough about them to help and given time so might their mum...the kids are the most important thing.
Thanks for your advice every opinion and advice will help me out with this problem I would love to take care of them but i also know what my sister is like. She isnt the type that would let you get away with taking something from her I know that anywhere is better than in her care. They have also spent nights sleeping in the car.
I'm am sad to hear this! These gals need a safe and stable home. You can only make that decision you do what you think is right.
As far as the kids being taking away, DHS will go and check out the situation first. Depending on worker bec they are all different they might give her the chance to find stable home for children and care while she is at work. If she fails to do this they will then step in and take the children away and the first placement they will be looking for is family. If there is no family that can take them then they will go into foster care until they can work out something. You being there aunt will be always able to see them if they happen to be in foster can you just have to fill in the visiting access form. If they get a strict worker they will remove the kids straight away but i haven't herd of that for a while but it all depends on what is going on. Our system don't have enough foster parents thats why they will try to place with family with all the checks done. This applies in Melbourne but think other states wont be that much different.
Hope it all goes well for you and your family..... let us know how you go.
The right thing would be to have them taken of her. As you said they need a safe and stable home which my sister will never give them. I can remember when they were 2&3 i got home early from work and they were home alone I put them in the car and took them for a drive when I got back she was in a panic and she promised me she would never leave them alone again. I have given her plenty of chances to smarten up and she hasnt. Im a bit of a wimp when it comes to stuff like this but I've had enough these girls are spending nights alone crying I have to help them. If i was to have them would you know if i be protected from her coming near my house?
Anyway thanks for you advice all advice will help me in whatever i decide to do
I agree with Jessgore, if not you, is anyone else in your family able to care for the girls, I don't know if I could report my sister in the chance I would never see the girls again so this must be so hard for you..... Goodluck and Im also sorry I have no answer for you x
Are you in any position to offer to look after the girls?? I think that would be best for the kids, being that if she is reported they may take the kids away and they may very well be placed with out family.
I wish I had the answer for you, for sure something needs to be done, and I wish you all the luck in coming to a decision on this one....
thanks for your advice i have made the big step after asking for advice on here and made contact with child protection it is being investigated once again thanks
that sounds like a bad drama movie. I think I would try and speak to someone professional to get advice on how to proceed. You could even drop the story on how that little girl Madaline went missing from a motel while the parents were out. So dangerous for the little girls. I do think you need to step in to help protect the girls, as they cant help themselves, Good luck as this will be a hard one
thanks for the advice for me its worst than a bad drama movie. Im not a very strong person and hate conflict. After reading all the comments on here with all saying call someone I did. It is being investigated they want me to find out where she is staying but i keep telling them she doesnt stay in one spot. It is great to know that there is people that are caring and supportive here on minti so once again thanks
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