It's great that he has been involved with her from the start. Because he has, she should be fine to go with him. It's probably a matter of trial & error - let him take her & see how she goes. If he says she was too unsettled then maybe wait a while. 1200 k's is a long way between you two though. The best person to ask might be a children's counsellor, or family counsellor. Get the opinion of someone who knows kids on a psychological level, if you know what I mean. We can all say yes or no, but we don't know what her father is like, what sort of child she is (eg, if she's easy going, fussy, etc), whether or not she would suffer separation anxiety from you ..... these are things for you to think about.

Good luck, it's a tough decision.

It's great that he has been involved and you are doing a fine job rasing your daughter-I know how hoard this can be right now as its unfamiliar. It's about trust but also it's about you being away from your daughter too and when this is new its daungting.

take it in easy stages as 1200 is a long way. First do you trust him and has he taken her out alone before-are there any concerns you have if he were to take her out for the whole day? Discuss these with a personal friend before talking to him unless you and him have great communication.

Gentle explain that (if all I say is true that is!) it isnt that you don't think he will be able to look after and care for her, it is a worry because you haven't been away from her for that distance and you will miss her, try and get him to see that it isnt him you are concerned with and that you will feel emotional and then tell him that you are very greatful that he is wanting to help and nurture her-make him feel useful and worthy as a father.

Maybe try a short distance first, like somewhere in the town and then gentle make the gap bigger, I know this is not the best solution. What about you stay over somewhere in his area and he takes her, at least this way you aren't too far away if you miss her. Could you stay at his or your friends house if they live in that area?

It depends on why you are worried-distance, the first time you will have been away from her etc. These are all perfectly normal emotions as a mum but if it is a concern regarding him and how he is with her then narrow the distance and talk to him but maybe have a friend their for support.

If you need anything else that you think I might be able to help you will, then please just ask. There was a 200 mile difference with my now ex the father to my son and so I feel a little of how you feel maybe.

take care hunny, hugs n hope.

x

Thats a hard one hun, have no answers. My sons dad moved to Qld when he was 6, I'm in vic, i ahve let him go twice but never again until he is a teen. I stress way to much. I guess it depends on how much you trust her dad.

All the best.

Dee