well done on making the tough choice and putting the girls interests first......once the knee jerk reaction wears off i hope your sister will see the situation in a better light coming  together for the girls well being. You did what you thought was the right thing at the time ...no one can say otherwise...we arent in your shoes to know the situation fully...

all the best, rue

It is better to know you tried, then feeling guilty about not doing anything at all...

Sometimes there just needs to be a little shove to get things moving, to get people to notice things are not quite right. 

Good luck with everything...

Sorry I didnt see this or the previous question before. I would have given some slightly different advice from that already given.

I would have suggested that you talk to your sister, offering to care for the girls at night when she works. Perhaps her support network you, your mum, the girls father, need to get together and let her know she is not alone and that you can ALL help with the girls and work out a bit of a roster.

Some damage has been done now, however, it still could be possible (without judgement) to have some sort of dialogue between ALL parties putting the girls best interests first.

Its more important for the girls to have their mum well supported and communication lines open than what has happened. Try and start with an apology for reporting her so quickly without discussing the issue with her first, (kids are not always the most reliable source of information). You may not like this but keep in mind what is in the children's best interest.

I hope everyone can get together and form that little village to raise these kids! Good Luck!

Hey,

Glad we could all help and give you the advice you needed. Im sorry your sister is being spiteful and not letting you see the girls. Great that you got in contact with there father and i hope he can do something about this. Your neices will be thanking you in the end, and im sure they know its not your fault you cant see them.

Dannii xxo

so sorry to hear you cant see your nieces , but i hope the father can stop this. Its a shame that she went as far to leave the kids by themselves and hopfully she has had a scare and starts doing the right thing! Good luck. you did something very brave, its hard when its your family!