My husband never felt comfortable showering with our son so I took him in with me until he was 3. I think it just depends on when it feels comfortable or not. We wanted to teach my son that he had parts he needed to keep private and I decided to stop showering with him to set an example.
excellent point! This is a great time (or even younger) to tell children that their genitals are private and that no one else can touch it except mommy, daddy and a doctor (with mommy or daddy present). I tell my son this all the time!
That's good to hear... My parents did this with me except left out the Doctor bit.... and when they took me to a dr it took them 15 minutes to explain that it was ok for me to let the dr to have a look
I love showering with my babies, it's a very special time to be close, having that skin contact. My daughter still takes baths with hubby (he's got shorts on) and she is 3. For me it is a nice time, but I stopped around 1+ years with my girl as she likes baths only, not showers. Little man will still get into the shower with me.
I just took a look at your homepage and found that your child is 1 year old? Certainly not too old to be showering with parents.
My eldest is 3 and he still occassionally showers with his dad, and a few times with me. He is just starting to notice the difference between boys and girls now, but that isn't just because of showering with us though. He has twin sisters and he sees me change their diaper. One day, he actually said that he's different from his sisters - his butt is in the back. LOL!
Do what feels right and certainly, do what is convenient for you. Why make your life harder that it is. If showering with your child is convenient right now, then do so. You will know it's time to stop by how your child behaves and what he starts to say about it.
HI Izzy, you made me laugh with the butt in the back, he sounds like a hoot. I agree it depends how comfortable people are. I think it's time when the parents feel uncomfortable. I shower, bath daily with my 21 month old and she/we love it. I get the occasional tweek of the " boodies" and " wee wee" but I'm ok with that, it's all exploration. Childhood is such a short time lets not move them out of it too quickly.
We still do on occasion with our 6 yr old. That way I make sure that he is washed properly. He also enjoys having a bath with me. He will get to an age where he doesn't want to and that is fine. Don't worry what others say. It is what you are comfortable with that matters.
We bulk bathe our kids. That means 2 at a time with either dad or I. Saves water and time and electricity!!!!!!!! Our oldest is 5 and our youngest is 14 months. We have showered our kids from a young age so that they would be comfortable with a bath and a shower.
Don't worry what other people say. Tell them that you are water wise and saving power too and that showering with your toddler saves time as well. Smart parents are always the ones who find ways to reduce the time burden kids place on them.
dont go worrying about what others say about you showing with your child,i have been showering with Myah since she was a baby and still do. I also showered with my other children as well till they hit their school age and started to asked what those marks were on my belly and why is my belly bigger than theirs and the list goes on!! LOL....if it is easier for you and you feel comfortable with it why not???I totally agree with all these other mothers.... keep doing what you are doing,your doing a great job by not wanting to leave him cry in his cot and you rushing in the shower...cheers na xxx
My son is three, and I still shower with him... I find it the easiest way to wash his hair, and as he is not wondering about my different bits yet, I figure it is still ok...
He does not like to take a shower but the bath tub is way to hard for me to wash his hair, so I give him a water pistol to wash away his bubbles....
I figure once he starts asking why my bits are different then his, or we can no longer fit in the shower together due to me being pregnant, then I'll have to find another way, but until then this works best for me, so that is what I will do... :)
Don't listen to any one else... I'd be worried if he was five or six.. But I don't think you'll have to worry about that...
Thanks for everyone comments, It seems i am not the only one who likes to shower with her kids,maybe the other mothers were just uncomfortable in discussing it rather than actually doing it.
I would shower while my boys were in the bath, having 3 meant not enough room in the shower for us all, lol. My oldest was about 4.5 when i stopped. Becasue there is only a year between the boys i stopped with the twins as well. It seemed fair that they stopped at the same time. This was the same with getting dressed with them in the room. The only reason i stopped was because they were starting to notice the difference between our bodies and were asking too many questions that made me uncomfortable.
At nearly 8 and 9, they still have no real want of privacy and still shower or bath together sometimes. Its only when we have visitors that they even close the bathroom door. Mind you they all still do the naked dash from the bathroom to the bedroom, and carry on silly and laugh if you see them!!!!
I used to shower with my girls all the time, there is nothing wrong with it at all, i think i stopped when they were about school age, it was about that time i started getting dressed in private - probably when they started pointing and asking too many questions, but i agree with what another mum said, you should do it until you feel uncomfortable doing it, and hey you're doing your bit for the environment and saving water by washing you both at once!!!
I asked my sil the same thing one day and she replied "when you are uncomfortable with it". For me that came when my son had just turned 4. I put him off and would try to have a shower on my own. However he loves showers, so he still begs and occasionally I let him. I hate it though cause he doesn't keep still and lathers the shower with soap to make it slippery as that is a great game apparently. SO, I think we will be stopping soon.
Both my kids love water and at our previous house we didn't have a bath, so this was a natural option for us. A shower on my own has become a rare luxury, but ,as others have said, sharing showers is a great chance for washing hair, in as the bath it can become distressing. It's up to you!
Me and hubby both shower with my kids. if we are in there ad they want in we dont stop them. my kids are 4 and 6. its also the only way i can wash my daughters hair as she has to wash mine at the same time.
well i have two girls one is 3 and the other is 1 when the one yr old is asleep i jump in the shower and my 3 yr old comes with me or she sits on the sit outside the shower and chats to me or brushes her teeth my 1yr old hates the shower so she has a bath . my 3 rr old still sneaks in with my hubby but she mores goes in with me she plays on the shower floor with her toys or she goes by herself in the shower
What???? I shower with all my kids and my eldest is 6 mind you though he doesn't like to be clean these days so having a shower is not on his to do list....... When your child starts to show a sign of wanting privacy thats when showering etc should stop.... Its means they are growing up and are starting to be more aware of their body...... So you are not strange, you are not doing anything wrong..... So you keep doing what your doing until he says um mum get out please pmsl then you will know its time to stop xx
Our wee man has been having showers with us since he was a few weeks old... He loves it and it is easier and more convenient when he has an emergency escaped poo or has thrown up all over the place etc. Now that he is 2yrs old, I often let him play in the bath while I shower - I get some freedom and I can keep an eye on him at the same time, most convenient.
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