Could it be something that he is eating?. I notice you have said he has behavioural probs due to food, so could it be a possibility that he could be allergic to a food type he is now eating.He could have a form of IBS or be lactose intolerant.There could be a million reasons so maybe it would be best for a general health MOT at the doctors.Good luck.

Lisa x

Soiling? Do you mean pooing in his pants or just wetting? If this is pooing and is a fairly new thing then I would take him to the doctors, it may be a sign of a bowel problem or illness, it may be down to attention seeking but it shouldn't be seen as a naughty behaviour, it could be a cry for help. I would strongly suggest talking this through with your doctor and make sure your son has his say about what is going on, if there seems to be no physical or emotional reason for this then just go with the flow, don't scold him for doing it and almost go back to potty training with asking him if he wishes to go especially before going out just like you would with a toddler, be matter of fact and try not to react. Of course the fact that he is now at school may present other problems which could be making the matter worse such as other children making fun or even bullying him about this (it could even steam from something like this at school) I would make an appointment with the school (after you have seen the doctor) with either his class teacher or head or both so they are aware of the problem and maybe try to find a way that they can help with either keeping the soiling discrete or reminding him at break time to go.

I hope you find a way to resolve this problem and that the outcome is a good one.

Take care

Clare x

Sometimes it is a comfort thing.  If a child feels threatened or not in control of the situation, them wetting or soiling their pants is one way they can still feel in control.

For other children, it can be that they are so involved with what they are doing, they ignore the 'I need to go' signs and just do it in their pants.

You say your son has behaviour issues, but not what they are, so hard to know why he is doing it.  Maybe you have had something change in your household recently, or close around you, or there could be an issue at school.

Talk to his teachers and see if they have noticed any thing that might be a 'trigger' for him doing this.

This happened with my nephew and we were told it could be a sign of sexual abuse..and it turns out it was. I did not know that was a sign so wanted to pass that along to you just so you are aware. It could be plenty of other reasons though of course.

Hi ,

My step daughter is 5 , yes i know she is quite a bit younger than your son but she would wet herself at school all the time , home , at friends wherever we are and i couldent suss why all she ever said was i dont know or it was too quick. Then i realised at home we was going through a time where her mother was playing games with her head and at school this little girl was constantly bullying her . i changed her schools she stopped contact with her mother and it stopped could there be anything eating away at your son ??

Emz x