Ok as most of you know (from my blogs) my daughter likes to scream really really loud with her tantrums. I'm doing everything that I can think of to stop her acting out like that. Everything from time out, to talking to her quiet and calmly to telling her that I will talk to her when she is calmed down. Nothing is working. She may have a tantrum every other day or so, normally for less then 15mins.
What can I do? I'm tired of hearing it, my son thinks that is the way to cry...and to top it off, I had some crazy old woman tell me she is going to call protective services on me cause she hears "to much screaming" (i'll blog more about it). UGH, any suggestions...
Tell that woman to call Protective Services! Oh boy, nothing like her having egg on her face!
This behaviour is normal! totally frustrating, but normal! She is asserting her little personality on the world, and wants everyone to know it! Frustration is the main cause of this behaviour, and it really is hard to get them to stop, as until about the age of 2, they aren't easy to reason with!!!!!!
I've noticed a lot of questions on this lately, and I feel for you all!!!! And yes, my 14 month old is doing the same!!!!!! Arrrrrggggghhhh! Who's with me in buying shares in an ear plug company?
I feel for you and it sounds like you are doing everything right..I am sorry to hear what you are going through. The only suggestions I have is to ignore the tantrum all together. I'm not sure if you've tried this, but if your little one gets absolutely no reaction at all and you completely ignosre the tantrum, she won;t have an audience and may (cross my fingers) stop..Good luck with everything
I have just gone through this with Sumara and OMG could she scream . . . There were times when my hubby and I just wanted to run away and hide because she was so bad . . . Eventually we talked to her paediatrician and what he suggested worked but its not for everyone . .
The suggestion that he offered us seemed over the top and to be honest we really were not sure as it seemed cruel but after a few more weeks we were desperate and gave it a try . . The thing to remember here is that screaming is done more for the attention that it gets . . .
SO here is what our paediatrician told us to do - Keeps a bottle of cold water in a spray container handy and every time she screams loudly simply give her a little squirt and say 'No"! . .
I know it seems harsh but in the end we only had to do it 3-4 times and silence won over . . . I couldn't bring myself to do it so poor hubby had to play the meanie BUT it worked and now we have a non-screamer . .
My 2 year old loves a tantrum. If he is throwing a tantrum i leave him for a few minutes to see if he calms down himself if he doesn't i actually get down at his level and talk quietly in his ear. I find that he stops so he can hear what mummy is saying. The only thing i say is for you to remain calm.
I have actually written some advice on this very subject. Not sure how to do the link thing but if you go to my page it is there.
I've done leaving alone deal, that is what I preferr as she does seem to calm the quickest that way. The talking quietly to her, it just makes her scream even louder, and time I interact with her while she is like this, it's jsut fuel for the fire....I will check out your advice and see what else I can try, thank you.
My 3 year old son has some doozies!! I have gotten to the point sometimes where I get so upset that I go and lock myself in the bathroom while he is screaming. if we are at home myson gets put in his bedroom and every 5-10 minutes I go in and ask him if he is almost finished. I may remind him of the things that he is missing out of. Eg. Hi Joshie. How you goingin here...are you almost finished. Did you know that Sponge Bob is on Tv at the moment and I'm not sure how long it will be on for. its a real shame you are having a tantie now coz other wise you could come and watch it too....or words to that effect.
I think once he realises that the behaviour he is showing is not doing him any good and that it hasnt got me to do what he is wanting then he stops and comes out and we have a cuddle. We then have a little chat about his behaviour and why it happened. It used to go on for about half an hour now we have maybe 10 minute tanties roughly once in 2 weeks. We used to have a lot while we were out until I just learned to ignore his screaming and yelling and then he realsed how little it affected me. Hang in there -it wont last forever. It sure feels like it but there will be an end to it.
I have always told her that it's not acceptable and when she calms down I would play or talk to her, but she just follows me everywhere and won't listen at all. Even trying to get her distracted like wanting to play on the computer, watching a cartoon, she'll say no, then she'll get upset that she can't do it. Or she'll say yes, and I put it on, but then she says she does not want it...It would not be so bad if this carzy lady did not threaten me with the whole 911 deal. I know my girl is just a toddler and just learning how to deal with her feelings....I just don't know they key to stop it yet....I will try to keep putting her in one spot until she calms down...And it is getting better, but still it's alot, especially when she is tired, everything sets her off and it's so easy for her to start a tantrum.
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