What has worked best for...Smile. pretend to listen , smile, say thank you, excuse yourself.  Reallly, they do not see what you do and say every minute of your life.

IHi There !

I know it's very hard to get expert advice, but , You are asking people Who are actually Mums & Dads, with many and varied remedies and personal advice as to what they experience whilst raising their families.

I think it is a good idea to read the advice given, and take from it what You think might work for You.

Take it as it is given, and enjoy Your family, and have a great Life.

Remember, what We teach them, is how they will , think, act, & treat others.

Don't be over serious and critical about advice !

Regards

Mintiman1

i like to just listen to it even if i dont want to do it.

sometimes later on u need the advice and u remember it and it helps...

the other option is a lady on here makes tshirts and one has the words "MY MUMMY DOESNT WANT YOUR ADVICE " written on the front lol THAT might help!

if i asked for advice i listen, if i didnt i generally say, sorry but i didnt ask for advice. rude i know but ppl have stopped saying stuff.

when it came to my son who has autism, ppl were telling me to do this and that (you cant do normal things with them. you have to do things differently) I would say to them, "Oh, i didnt realise you had a degree in working with special needs kids" again harsh but they soon learned that special needs kids are different when i gave them my son for a day. LOL

In one ear and out the other.

I found the best way is to just nod and smile.  People eventually get the picture that you are going to do what you want anyway.

I found that when I got over being annoyed that I was getting unsolicited advice, I did actually pick up a few hints and tips that I have actually used.

i have a hundred and one answers for this none of which are apropreate for a description on this site. all i can offer is use your imagination and add some shock factor to your answers. then practice saying them without laughing. ::)'s from becca!

Excuse my brain, but your question suggests that you are able to control the actions and words of other people.  If only we could!!!!!!! Ok, down to business.

The reality is you can't stop people from giving you advice.  They are going to give it no matter what.  What you can do is file that advice somewhere in the back of your brain for future reference, because nothing when raising children should ever be completely dismissed.

Use the advice you find helps and forget the rest.  Learn to 'filter' what sounds good and what doesn't. 

As for dealing with people who think they know better, tell them that you appreciate that they are trying to help, but you feel as though you have to make your own mistakes and find what works for you.

Don't let them get to you.  Everyone has an opinion and some people are going to express it whether it is appropriate or not.  We can't stop them doing it, but we can control how we use what they say and our own reactions to the advice.

The best way i found to stop people from giving me advice.

My MIL was giving me unwanted advice so i just waited til my SIL had a baby and all the advice stopped.

My sister was giving me advice andthat stopped after seh realised she knew jack bout raising kids let alone her daughter.

I know this probably doesnt help.

I have a MIL who is full of wonderful advice!! (NOT) I guess it depends on who it is and what they are advising you on. I tend to listen to family members and if i dont like what they are saying i will say something like "Thanks, but we are happy doing things the way we are." If it is someone who has nothing to do with our family, then i would tell them to butt out and mind their own business.

The best thing Ive found to do, is say thanks, and then turn to your baby like your talking to him and say "but we like the way mommy is doing it, dont we" in a real sween and cuddly voice, that way your not being rude and you get your point across.

I usually point out to "the you should brigade" that the best advise I ever got was from the MKB Encyclopedia of Knowlwdge. When they look blankly at me I say "Oh sorry ya never heard of "Mother Knows Best", cor I cant do any thing without it".LOL. They usually stop lecturing and start agreeing, hehe.

Luv Winnie.xxxx

im normally point blank and tell the person that whilst i value their efforts its confusing enough without their imput and you would be grateful if they could keep their opinions to their self, i know it sounds cruel but this approach usually helps with the people that are always giving advice there is always one that their child has seen,been,and done that and you get to the point where you think im really not interested, i know ive been there but ive saved a lot of friendships by now being a bit blunt with how i feel and if they are close they will respect your honesty if they dont then were they worth worrying about in the first place???

hope this helps sorry but its the way i am now a cynical old cow!!!!