Hey there, Don't stress too much! My hubby was very anti more cherubs after our first even until the cherub was 3 ( she was VERY unsettled and has been a bit of a challenge!) However now she is quite "user friendly" and is lots of fun and is so into everything ( including fishing!) She is the spitting image of daddy and gives as good as she gets!  ( she is three and 1/2 ) Hubby has changed his tune about another! So don't be disheartened! Once they see what is ahead as they get older, often dad's can change their minds! I have made it known that I wouldn't mind having another, but once I turn 40 all bets are off! I know that in the early part of our relationship, hubby was the one that wanted cherubs, once the reality arrived....well that's a whole other story! After that he was less than enthusiastic! Now...well we will wait and see! Don't push it! Unless you are about to hit 40, there is plenty of time, just mention it now and again ( usually grandparents are good for this!) and bide your time! If he doesn't come around, then maybe it's time to getsome councelling to help work outwhat is important for you as a couple! Give it time and don't grieve just yet!

I agree that you really need to find out why he is so set against having any more children And you also need to tell him (as calmly as possible) how extremely distressed you are at his decision.

If this communication comes to nothing (& remember that good communication is the cornerstone of any relationship); You will need to figure out for yourself if your need to have another child is more important than your marriage. Perhaps set a time-limit on how long you are prepared to wait to have another child. And then tell him that if he is still adamantly against any more children 2yrs prior to that date, you will then have to think about divorce as being the best option for you. This would give you both the opportunity to change your mind. And would give you the time to look into sperm donorship & set yourself up as a single parent.

good luck

Rosalinda

I don't know if this would help, but my husband did not want to have any more either.

He had his daughter, and our son, making two kids for him. For him this was enough...

When my son was about 2 and a bit he finally said "lets have another".  When I asked him what changed his mind it was how our son was playing with other kids, and he really enjoyed seeing it...

Has there been a traumatic experience, ie: Has your baby had an illness, did you have trouble going through childbirth????

My cousin had problems twice during childbirth, and her husband does not want to go though that again. WHile my cousin is willing, her husband just can't deal with the situation and never wants to repeat it..

I think what you need to do is find out the why.  Maybe he has a valid reason for it all..

I wish I could really help you, who knows a few years down the track he might be ready for it all over again...

Good luck.. xxx

Sometimes I wish I had a husband like that.  I really need a break from being pregnant, but having a husband who loves having babies (me, not him) we tend to ignore practicality and get ourselves into trouble.

In your situation, it is very important for you and your husband to really talk about why he doesn't want any more.  it might be that he feels he doesn't do a good enough job or that he feels he can't cope now.  Listen to him and really discuss the issue together, not just one side or the other.

If you need to so that he gets the message, then go through mediation.  Unfortunately my psychic powers have abandoned me, so I have no idea what country you are in, making it hard to know where to point you (ps, not really a psychic! lol, I check profiles!).

Talking is the key to resolving any marital issues, so make sure you both get heard, properly and without interruption.

give some time, and don't try to force hubby, no getting pregnant 'by axcident'

perhaps ask him in a calm time what he objects to having a second child. for me, my dear son is only child and I may get some heat here, but I wish this was not so, as it is difficult for him socially