I have been in your situation and believe me they do not change at all they might tell you that they are going to but it just wont happen thnk of your self and your child leave now.

cheers lisam

monkey see monkey do so they say...if ur child see's this behaviour he will grow up thinking this is a normal way to act and will learn to do it himself. This man WILL do this again, he will do it again and again,until u leave....get out of there and go somewhere safe with ur child....u can get help,it is there....plz dont stay there,he has no right to hurt u like this,u have done nothing wrong to deserve this....ur son loves u so much more than what u think,they all love their mummy's....u just seem to have low self asteem which is what ur partner is doing to u,that could be why u feel ur son prefers him more than u....i hope u can get the courage up to get ur little one and urself out of there to be safe,u both deserve better than this!!!!

na xxxxxxx

you need to leave him, if he can do it to you, he can do it to your son.

No matter how much he promises he won't do it again, he will!  You need to get you and your son out of that situation and do it now. 

I understand your need to go annon, but that makes it hard to refer you to services in your country.  What I can say is get in contact with your local domestic violence centre and get some info from them.  If you can't find one, then go to your doctor about it, they will have the resources and referrals necessary to help you.

Men can make all the promises in the world,but unless they change their behaviour etc, they will keep doing this.  He needs help,and so do you and your son.  Your son could grow up being a violent person too if raised in this enviornment, so the sooner you get him out of it, the better.

you already know how i feel about this (member contacted me privately people) and as he has done things of an unpleasant nature to you before, each time it happens it will get worse.

As you witnessed what i went through with my ex (child involved also) it should be clear to see the patterns. This bloke you are with seriously needs help! I only hope that you can overcome your fear and leave him! Don't Just stay cos of bub, as if he sees his dads behaviour he will grow up thinking its OK to do this to women when he is older and i know you dont want that!

Love ya hun!

 This is from someone who had lived and survived a domestic violent relationship- GET OUT NOW!. It will NOT get better, he will NOT change, PROTECT YOU CHILD!  No matter what he says, do not trust him when he says it won't happen again. They all say that. IT WILL.

Don't be frightened of being on your own, help is available. It is much better than living a life of stress, worry and violence. Your first priority is to your child. Why would you want them to grow up in such an environment? 

Please feel free to minti mail at ANY time if you would like to chat. 

 Sounds like everyone is pretty agreed on this subject - leave now. Its hard yes but what would be harder is seeing your son hurt and possibly in hospital or the same for yourself. You need to think with your head not your heart. See the situation for what it is - leave now while you still can. Your partner needs to admit he has a problem and get help. Maybe in the future he will heal and you can build the relationship up again. if your partner is willing to get help maybe you can be there to support him - but do it from a safe distance where there is no way he can hurt you or your son. 

I wish you the best of luck. Take care

I think you should go. He needs help and it has nothing to do with you. Your first priority should be to keep yourself safe so that you are able to keep your son safe. Do you really want your son to grow up with this and think that it's normal?

Even though he has promised not to do it again do you want to take that chance? I wish you the best and will keep you in my prayers.

Get Out

Seetie.. I've been married 37 years and the 1st 16 years were violent.  Very seldom does it have a happy ending.  Jesus came into our lives and really changed things.  But to answer your question.... I would get away, it always happens again, I don't know of any cases that didn't just keep getting worse.  It doesn't matter if your son prefurs him or not.  Take your son and leave.  It's not worth it without God changing it.  NO ONE has the right to abuse you.... NO ONE    If I can be of help let me know

Kids go through phases as far as which parent they prefer. My son used to be all about Mommy the first 2 years of his life, now that he is 3 yrs 4 months, it's all about Daddy. Then sometimes he prefers whoever he thinks would let him do what he wants. So don't let your son preferring his Daddy stop you from self-preservation.

Remove yourself from the situation and seek counceling. Your partner has a problem with anger and this has nothing to do with you. If he can't control his anger with you, he may not be able to control his anger with your child. Please seek help.

Short and simply...I would RUN!!!!! and NOW!!!!! I hope it all goes well for you.

My twins dad was violent towards me a lot when we first started our relationship.He gave me split lips,bruises etc-all were in drink and he never remembered(or said he didn't) what he had done.We went out one night and he once nearly pushed me through a shop window and kicked me on my inner thigh and bruised me really badly.He denied doing that.I consequently went on to have babies to him because previous to being pregnant the last time he laid a finger on me was about 6 years prior,so I thought he had changed.We split up which wasn't due to violence when they were about 19 months old.I moved out and on visitations the boys came home more and more with bruising and marks on them.One night he got drunk and came round to our house at 1 in the morning trying to break in and shouting he was going to kill us all through the letterbox.The boys and myself were scared stiff and he was consequently arrested.A few months passed without him seeing the boys and gradually his visits resumed.It was only a few weeks later when it started again.The final straw for me was when one of my boys had been thrown across the room by their dad for ripping a hole in a piece of xmas wrapping paper.I immediately stopped contact and do not regret it all.

It all went to court and he got no visitation or parental responsibility.

My advice is GET OUT NOW!!!.If you stay your little boy could end up seriously traumatised or end up being seriously hurt himself.Or your son could end up thinking its alright for boys to hurt mummy and try and hurt you himself.Get out and take your boy with you,now.

My ex always promised he would never do it again-bullshitI  I beleived him and wasted 9 years with him and the only good thing to come out of our relationship was my boys.

He will do it again,and he could very well hurt your son.Can you afford to take that risk?