This breaks my heart!..Does he know what is going on? Maybe if he does, he will try and change it and make a real effort to be the father she needs.

If not and he's not willing to do this, maybe seeing him one day a year is too painful for her at this point..I guess she may be too young for counseling, but asking a trusted doctor, child psychologist etc..what the best thing to do may not hurt..This is such a touchy subject and I feel so badly for your little one

I hope that things get better for her and I wish you much luck

sorry to hear this . looks like you have tried all ways of communication with him. its sad that your daughter is saying these things . its so hard because she is still too young to explain things try to keep things simple.

maybe you should start by saying he lives in an ordinary house like us and most people in the world try telling her that not everyone has a big house and swimming pool

keep an eye on her over the year and see if your "little talk" has helped

try to point out to her ordinary houses when your out and about.

point out to her that not all people living in big houses and swimming pools are always happy just like people living in ordinary houses arent.

i even know of adults that feel if they had "double storey house and pool " everything is dandy. some who have achieved this arent always happy

cheers annie

Maybe she has started kindy and other children are talking about there dads and she is starting to wonder herself. If it is not possible for her to have contact with her dad as long as she has a lot of love and support around and she knows she is loved she will get through this. I have been here as my boys dad didn't see them a lot when they were young, he was going through his own things as it sounds like your daughters dad is. It is actually better for them they are not there but they don't understand that. When she is older she will understand but at the moment try not to make him look bad in her eyes he loves her but can't be around and hope that he gets his life together. My ex has and they get to see him a lot now. Take care, Lynette xx

Just a Suggestion... Have you tried getting your Daughter to leave a voicemail on his mobile instead of just you.

He may be more amiable if his duaghter tries to contact him. Otherwise i dont know what you should do.

 You don't say whether or not your daughters father lives close to you....or if your on speaking terms with him.

It seems your daughter needs contact with her father... you could try talking to him about, this situation happening with his daughter & maybe throw the ball into his court, by saying " have you any suggestions on how we can make things better for her".

If this is not possible, i would be trying to re-assure her that her father loves her and always will.

Best of luck, Janice xxxx

Awww so sad im sorry i cant help as i havent been in your position. let me know how you go ok hun

awww poor thing xxxxx umm i havent really been in this situation ummm could you talk to her about it in a fun way take her to her fav place make it funny i really dont know sorry