This is a horrible situation to have to go through because you didn't see firsthand for yourself..I would wait a little longer and watch closely to see who your true friends really are..Once you see that clearly, you don't need to waste your time with people who aren't your friends..

Good luck! I hope your situation gets better

I  went  through something similar recently and it turned out to be rubbish.I asked my friends if they'd said what was being  claimed and they said no.

The person who said it is probably jealous and the attention  seeker.I'd just ignore it or you're giving them what they want.

xx

Personally my philosophy in life is I am me, take me as I am. If you don't like it, tough!

You know in yourself if you are an attention seeking person or not. If you are not, then let it wash off your back and don't stress over it.  Ignore it. "Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me". Learn it, live it.

If you are, then maybe look at this as a wakeup call. I hate to say it, but your friend may think this as well if only in a small way, and just needed that situation to be able to say it to you.

If you feel that you need to vent it out, write it all down on a piece of paper, all your thoughts and feelings about it, read it, screw it up and burn it. If I am ever really stressed over a situation, then that is what I do. It is very cathartic and makes me feel 100% better..

Personally i would just ignore it unless you hear any of this for yourself from your friends . There are alot of people that do this sort of stuff to  stir up trouble.

I agree with the others but I would be dubious of the friend who told you about it,perhaps she wants you to think that she is your best friend and I wouldn't confront it unless you heard them pesonally saying nasty things about you

A saying that Ive heard is "They can say what they want as long as I don't hear them"

No need to get stressed about something that may not be true

Hmm and the motive of your friend telling you this was???? Sorry if this upsets or sounds harsh,  but a good friend does not call you up to impart gossip and inuendo in my oppinion. She deals with it by confronting the ladies in her home and putting them all back on the right track. Do you really need to know this, with all the stress you say you are under.

I would just ignore the whole thing and take people as they are and follow your gut instinct from meeting to meeting. The only person who needs to feel good in themselves is you, and your friend should know better than to add to your upset. Be happy with who you are, and let the rest take you as they find you. The ones who care will alway's care and those that dont will drift away naturaly, no confrontation necessary.

Just some thoughts. Winnie.xxxx

Personally I would think that it would not be worth the time to worry about it...

Life is to important to worry about the pettiness of others... 

Life is to short to go worrying about what others call you.

Continue with you life and don't worry about the little things, the obviously have nothing better to do...

Good luck..

they don't sound like they don't deserves your friendship.  It wouldn;t be worth the trouble of confronting them, I would just leave it and them alone.  Make new friends that are REALY friends.

I can feel that you have some self esteem issues.  Well, I've been there too, but I learned that no matter what other people think of me doesn't matter.  As long as I am happy being who I am, then no one can make me feel bad or less than I deserve.

Laugh at the bitching and name calling.  You are bigger than that.  letting it get to you will mean they win.  Becareful of your friend though, because if she is associating with these girls, then is she joining in?  I had that problem too.  One friend would always tell me what everyone else is saying about me, but she was often the one starting the rumours too, though it took me a couple of years to find it out.

Ignoring the behaviour of these girls (can't call them ladies, because they are too immature) is the best way to go.  When your friend tells you they are saying these things about you, shrug it off and say big deal!

To help gain some confidence in who you are, look into self defence or dance classes.  Both will help you to find your 'centre', get you out of the house, get your hear rate up and help to boost self esteem.  Self defence classes can also help to make you feel more in control of your life as they don't just teach 'self defence', they also teach breathing techniques, stress management and leadership skills. 

I think it would depend on your friend, whether she minds you "outing" her. If she does then I would just do your best to ignore them, don't talk to them or go anywhere with them. If they try to speak to you or find out what's going on just very politely tell them you don't want to talk. Life is too important to waste it on people like that........I've been there and I feel like these people took something away from me. I did confront the people that did this to me and I felt so much better afterwards, I felt empowered.

The thing to remember is that their lives must be so boring and miserable for them to sit there and bitch about you.......think about it, if you're happy and have things going on in your life, do you sit around putting others down.........NO. They are not worth your time.

Amanda xxxx

That is horrible. I dont have many female friends for this reson. I say ignore them out of your life completly. dont tak notice of what they have said as it will drive you up the wall wondering why. If you need to confront them, do it in a nutral place where neither party feel cornered and explain how you feel. Just my ideas anyway. I hope it may help a little