Have you tried time out ? It worked anabsolute treat for us. It sounds to me like your son is trying to take control. Which is your job and he needs to realise that. Each time he swears at/ disrespects you send him to his bedroom or a corner or stairs if u have them and once he has stopped crying shouting and doing whatever he was doing time it for a minute for every year of his life .

Also for him to call you a bitch he must be hearing this kind of lanuage from somewhere possibly a family member , friend / neighbour . I f you could let them know your son is picking up their bad language and you would appreciate if theey were more careful with their lanuge around your son.

Good Luck .

I can only tell you what worked for me raising my 4 and 2 grand babies.  We talked ugly when ours was growing up and Never did any of my children call me an ugly name (I'm sure they did behind my back but never to my face) We never knew what time out was.  I believed the old fashioned punishment of spanking.  I'm not talking about beating a child, I spanked mine with a switch or belt.  The 1 time my second son said a dirty word in front of me I washed his mouth out with a bar of soap and never had to again.  I got complements on how well behaved my kids were and how respectful and polite.  That is well worth a few tears they shed from being spanked.  And all $ of them still loves me!!!  The 2 teenagers I have now I did completly different tried punishing by time out and taking privliges away... hasn't worked so far, they don't call me names but they yell and are disrespectful soooo  for me a spanking did work... not abuse!!!!

For your son to be saying things like that to you, he has to be hearing other people say it to you.  His saying it is because he thinks it is acceptable language and way to talk to you.  In other words, someone close to you doesn't respect you, and neither does your son.

Being consistent in the way you and everyone around you treats yous son will help.  This also means the language he is exposed to.  If there is someone else who talks this way around you, then they are going to have to stop.

You could try time out corner or reward charts, but I think for you, it is going to be a tough battle.

Just as Jedd's mum has said consistency is the key. I think that it is important to look at your own reaction to the tantrum too. Think how you are dealing with it now. Is it calm? What would you change? Read heaps of books too. Toddler Taming by Dr Christopher Green is good. Little Angels, can't remember the author. Just watching the super nanny and even parent rescue there theme is always model the behaviour and be consistent with the time outs. Hope that helps and I am sure there is a lot of advice articles here too. If he is playing up at daycare too have they asked you to see a doctor. Ask them advice too. Use them to ask them there advice too. They are right there and would have a lot of support services they can direct you to.

Well, he makes life exciting in a not so good way.

Have you tried doing time out with him. I know it sounds liek a simple thought but you can use a high chair for it. When ever he acts up I would expalin calmly WHAT he is doin g rong, how long he will be put in the chair and then leave him there strapped in. I would also put the high chair away form everyone so tha the is separated form teh "group" . Whether the grou[p is the family, palymates, or jsut you when at home.

Make sure to use the straps and have him within a distance that  you can check on him to ensure he is okay. I would have the time out start when he stops the tantrum. Youcan go over when he is done and explain okay your time out starts now....you can set an egg timer so that he knows and you know WHEN the time out will end.

After he has completed  time out again, explain what he did and how you are glad he did his time out in an orderly fashion.

In order for this to work you have to be firm and di it the same way every time without exception. If the hcild sees a weak piont then, the roadwork you ahve built will have to be repaved.

Good Luck I  hope it goes well for you.