LIfe with a baby changes everything lol!

I think that you could still be adjusting to life as a new mom and your husband to life as a new dad! This takes time!

I also think that your hormones are still adjusting after giving birth since your little one is only 8 weeks!

I think you should give yourself a break..You are allowed to make mistakes!1 You are going rhough one of the biggest changes of your life!

I also think that maybe you could use a little time to yourself..Getting out of the house alone even if it is for a short walk or a cup of coffee will give you a much needed break!

I can honestly tell you that I got cranky quite a bit after my dd was born!

Lack of sleep+ major life changes+ more lack of sleep+ hormones+ more lack of sleep can do this to anyone!!

I wish you the best and congrats on your new addiditon!

Sounds like you might have post natal depression.

Depression can come in all sorts of forms. It doesn't mean you are sad or have bad thoughts about your baby. It can just be that you aren't handling it well and taking it out on the other person in your life, your partner, who is there a lot of the time.

I would first try and get out more. Go to the park with your baby. Join as many playgroups as you like, I go to 3 a week. Mothers groups are good too which you can find out about at your local health and community centre.

If you start getting out more you will probably find that you wont be so snappy at your partner. You might have more to talk about, and will enjoy seeing him more.

If it doesn't work I would go to your doctor. Just remember that depression isn't something to be ashamed of, and it is best dealt with as soon as possible to prevent it getting worse. You don't have to keep feeling the way you do.

Hi! What you say sounds very normal.  Having a baby affects relationships - it affects how you see yourself and your expectations of your partner (as well as theirs of you).  Plus, are you getting out at all with your baby?  I think you need to make sure you have some time with other adults - maybe a mother's group or playgroup - and some time doing something you enjoy.  Even if you just go out for a walk to teh local shops once a day - that was what kept me sane until I found other things to do.  I hope that helps some...

Oh sweetie I do feel for you. You definately have symptoms of depression. Any change in mood that lasts 2 or more weeks is a sign of a mood disorder.

Signs of depression include, but are not limited to the following,

Please seek help, and include your husband so he understands how to help you and not take it personally.

I know what you are experiencing and know what can happen if you dont seek help immediately. The change following the birth of a child is so overwhelming and happens to be very common. It can be treated and you can recover.

Take care and best wishes, Miriam.

I just wanted you to know that you are definitely not alone with those feelings.  you have almost repeated verbatim the things that I went through and I seemed to get mad at my partner all the time.  I started a journal so that I could write down my feelings and when my son was around 6 weeks old,  I wrote that we seemed to fight all the time and I felt very alone.  I think your feelings will pass and that it is such a huge adjustment to make and that you are very much in the early stages of that adjustment.

Don't be hard on yourself; you will probably look back and be able to laugh one day very soon at how you're feeling.  my son is now 11 months old and I feel very different now to the way I did back then.  Things are so much more under control now.

I think you need to talk to your hubby and let him know how you are feeling also get him to help you with the baby.  My Partner baths my son and has so from day one it was a bonding thing.

Also maybe you could join a mothers group so you get out of the house and have other adult conversation not just conversing with your hubby.  Talk to your local Maternal Health Nurse.

the first few months of a babies life are hard and you can feel resentful of your partner for being able to continue with his life whilst you have had your whole life altered in such a big way.

you need to talk to your husband and get all your feelings out on the table.  it may be as said before that he doesn't know what to do to help you if this is the case give him some suggestions. 

don't bottle it up as this will course further problems in the future

I would say go and see a doctor. I know you said you dont feel sad or anything, but it could be a mild depression. They say you hurt the ones you love the most when you are upset. So maybe that is why you are taking it out on your hubby.

Also as Queen-fire said, if he isnt helping you out, then that could be causing some frustration for you. If it is that he isnt helping, then you need to tell him. Even if it is just to help at bed time, to bath her or read her a story. Something so that you dont feel like you are doing EVERYTHING!!

All in all, you really need to talk to him about whats going on in your head.

Hope it gets better for you soon.

I know this sounds silly but does your hubby helps you with bubs at all? I got annoyed at my bf because the 1st few months he didnt do anything with our son due to the fact he didnt know how.

But I have him now getting up to him on the weekends he isnt working and he comes home and gives our son dinner.

Maybe trying to get your hubby to give her a bath before bed or something so you can just sit and relax without worrying about what the baby is wanting or doing because hubby is with her.