wow! sounds like your son has major temper tantrums! he sounds like my now nearly 5 year old... my son is now being assessed for asperger syndrome soon, as he has a lot of the signs of it, but it has been a lot of fun these last few years! i say he was sent here to test me! like you, i tried a lot of different things, and nothing seemed to work. the worst part was/is the constant crying/screaming/whinging...   i have learnt to have a lot of patience! i  try to ignore the 'bad' behaviour. i tell him that i love him, but i don't love his behaviour, when he is having a tanty... i have to admit, it is a lot harder with a 2 year old, than a nearly 5 year old...  maybe a naturopath/iridologist could help? i took my son to one, and we have cut out most wheat, dairy and processed foods, and his behaviour seems to have improved a LOT!!!. food colourings are also very bad for my son. there is a good dvd out which shows all about the effects that food colourings and preservatives etc have on children - it is called "Fed Up (with children's behaviour)" ~ Sue Dengate.... hope this helps!

welcome to the 2 it doesnt get better. my son is almost 4 we wnet through that. i tried time out but then i started busting his butt and it taken time but he starting to out grow that hiting throwing fits etc. it makes u wana cry u feel like no one else is going through this but u. dont make him take naps let him go out and play for a few hours do whatever makes him happy and i promise u by 8 or 9 he be ready 4 bed. feel free email me jenn021681@aol.com

Hello, I dont have much advise, I just wanted to send my sympathy! My oldest just turned 2 in May and he is now a holy terror!  He does what you sya yours does throws his food across the room screams and throws a tantrum over everything!  I have read your advices from people adn It didnt seem to help my at all!  Nothing has changed recently, he playes with other kids and he seems to have a fine diet adn eats when he is hungry enough...   but maybe you could try some physica disapline... I have tried it with my son and it dont seen to help... but it migh twiht your kid as no 2 kids are alike, tho ours seem to be 2 peas ina pod! lol

sorry im not more help!

Hi there!  Some kids are more intense than others.  It doesn't help when you are thinking "why don't other kids do this, is it just mine, what am i doign wrong?"  I know because I think that quite often.  My son is very intense - very sensitive and emotionally extreme.  He is just built that way.  I try and keep things calm around him so that things don't make him worse and I try to be sensitive to how things affect him (like diet as people have suggested) but that can't always happen. 

I also try and see his behaviour in positive ways - when he stands up to me I see it as good that he can stand up for himself and I let him question things, but I always have an answer to explain why i have told him to do something.  I am also big on consequences and letting him chose the behaviour he wants knowing what teh consequence is.  Anyway, your guy is a bit small for that but you can start using that mindset in a simpler way.

That said, there is no excuse for bad behaviour.  I found time out on a 'naughty chair' didn't work for us as my son would not stay put and I didn't want to get into physical reactions.  A friend of mine told me to always stand behind them as you lead them to the corner and they can't kick you etc.. as easily so we did that for a while and just stand behind them for the minute (doesn't always work but more often it did).  Now, though, I send him to his room to calm down - for him that is punishment as he needs people around him.

The bedtime you describe and teh struggles with dinner sound very familiar.  The trick is picking your battles and being consistent with the ones you think are important - eg no more food after dinner, no leaving your room after stories (we leave the room and put a cd on and he can't come out even if he is awake) and letting the rest slide until you are ready to take them on as well.

I hope that helps you and you can see where I am coming from.  Minti mail me if you've got questions for me.

hey, wow, sounds like u have a little boy a litte frustrated and maybe he needs to be seen by a dr as well... has he been like this for a while?? have some things changed at home?? something upsetting him?? My dr has always said if there is a big change in behaviour that is a reason to see him,it could be a number of reasons, he is unwell, he has a behaviour problem,it could be a habit forming,or foods......Maybe you should go and see someone for peace of mind sweetie??? It might put your mind at ease if you find out the causes of his behaviour,even if it is just him acting out........

i wish you luck on all this.......give an update if you find out anything!!

 na xxx

Babe as I said yesterday I think he is bored and needs other kids to play with. You are more than welcome up here any time you want. Charlie will show him a thing or too. LOL she is a mean buggar.

But seriosly chicki all ya can do is keep trying and if ya think there is a behavoural prob see ur doc and go and see a peadeatrsion (sp)

Remember he is so beautiful and proberly fustrated with something or other. Alex gets like him when he is fustrated, Becca said yesterday so does Logan.

Also with all that has happened the last few months might be taking a toll on him to.

Do you feed him any junk food? cordial and white bread? (these have addatives that can make some kids go "mental" and uncontrolable)

His acting out could be the result of what else is going on around him. Has there been any changes in your life? Who does he spend his days with? Does he go to a daycare? If so is HE happy with the daycare or how do they teachers treat them? How much time does he spend with you and your partner? Is there one parent he doesnt get to speand as much time with? You might want to concider these questions. Some children dont know how to handle change and they act out.