We had a problem getting rid of the swaddle as well so thought I would tell you what we did.  It took a good week - more difficult than getting rid of the dummy - but we got there in the end.   We basically did the old one arm out routine.  Started with one arm out at naptime.  he probably only slept one sleep cycle as he could not click over unswaddled.  did that for 2 or 3 days then tried one arm out at night.  bad night so reswaddled at midnight.  tried again the next night - he did better.   probably did this for another night while we tried 2 arms out at naps.  finally bit the bullet and did 2 arms out at night.  Like I said it probably took a week to 10 days but we got there in the end.  He was fighting the swaddle so badly so we knew we had to do it.  He hated it - but also couldn't sleep without it.  Oh - and then we had a few nights of the swaddle wrapped around his body and then we went to the sleepsack.  This was around 4 months. 

Good luck.  You can do it - it will just be a very rough week with bad naps and bad nights.

All 3 of my children went through the stage where they get out of the wrap but then can't sleep. It just takes 1-3 nights before they got used to having no wraps. I think what worked for us is that we had this transition very early on (2 1/2 months for my son and 3 1/3 months for my twins).

Your baby will get used to not being wrapped, but it will take some getting used to. In the meantime, I suggest being prepared because bedtime will take longer than usual an your baby may wake up more than usual at night. But after a few nights your baby should be fine.

As far as your 3 year old hitting, they are at age that there must be clear consequences for bad behavior. Before this age, we can be somewhat wishy-washy and inconsistent and get away with it, but at 3 consistency is trully key. With my son ( 3yrs 4 months), hitting of any kind is not allowed. If he throws his toys to hit something/someone, then we take away that toy. If he keeps doing it, we just keep taking toys away. Of course we talk about why it isn't nice and it isn't allowed. Maybe the next time you take him somewhere you can tell him some rules... if he hits someone, then that'll be the end of fun because you will take him home.

It sounds as tho your daughter needs to be tucked in tightly (to stop her rolling) as well as tightly wrapped. If the cot-sheets aren't big enuff try using a single one side-on. Tuck all the way under both sides of the mattress & tight as a drum-skin. It was a fashionable method when I was a child (I couldn't stand it myself).

Your son has just arrived a little later at the reknown "terrible 2s". If he hasn't started using the word "no" excessively yet, he soon will. There certainly needs to be some immediate consequence for his smacking behaviour so he knows its not acceptable. Perhaps an instant removal to some suitably boring & safe place (like his room) along with telling him that hitting won't be tolerated. No attention for a short time. (Trial & error will tell you how long works.) Some say a few minutes; others say at least 1/2 hour. Then the apology. It will need to be done every time without fail if its going to work. Eventually he'll figure out that if he wants to stay in the social centre of things, he'll need to curb the smacking..

 Rosalinda

Hi Juzzy

I have no idea what you could do for your son... Sorry

But for your Daughter, as Arna said, try the bond grow suits with the hand bits in them, or if you cant find any of them, maybe put a longer top on her (maybe 1 size up) and try tying the hands in knots at the end? Maybe that could work? I once got told to tie my sons arms (the sleeves) up around his back, so he was sort of cuddling himself. I never tried it coz he sleeps on his belly, but if she is a back sleeper it may work.

Good Luck hun xox

hi there

with your daughter maybe you could wrap her as you usually do but when she is asleep unwrap her so she isnt wrapped up tightly with your son i have no idea sorry lol i am going through the same thing good luck

larissa

Yea your right that might confuse him you can hit but he cant kinda thing.  I am a believer in spanking kids but I think for this I would just try a time out and be consistiant.

Q1.  Have you thought of getting her some mittens for her hands?  Or the baby bonds stretch and grow suits have special little pockets at the end of the sleeve to tuck their hands into.

Q2.  Will let you know when we work this out with our brood.  We get one to understand it is wrong, and another starts it.  I'm sure they play bad behaviour tag sometimes.  I do know that it is their way of upsetting the 'pecking order' and it is actually natural behaviour.  Same as any animal in the wild, the ranks are constantly changing and every one wants to be top dog.