The sooner you tell him the better.  It means the more time he has to get used to the idea.

Be open and honest about it and tell him that you are worried about how he will react etc.

Congrats!  As for the finances, can't help there.  In Australia, our public health system is free for most of us.

first and foremost you need to tell hubby when you two are alone. when the children are asleep or occupied.

make sure there are no interuptions for example not while your trying to put dinner on the table.

make him a cup of coffee or whatever you two do together dont make anything out of the ordinary though.

remember it takes two of you two have a baby so dont feel that you are at fault. if he is concerned about the economy side of things i know things can be costly especially if you are renting or mortgage but remember during economic depression and hardships people still managed somehow or another to bring babies into the world.

hopefully hubby will be pleased but i can see you are feeling a little apprehensive. dont worry about inlaws or anyone else telling you it is too soon to have another because after all it is a natural process of life.

its peoples choices to postpone but its also peoples choices to go with nature

i hope everything will be ok and hubby will be accepting if not then you have choices and then you both need to look at your relationship as well dont feel pressured into anything you dont want to do as you might regret it for the rest of your life . remember its your body

take care cheers annie

Well 1st of all a congratulations is in order.

I think Hubby will surprise you, my bf when i told him 1st time i think i am pregnant after getting over the shock I just let him sit and think for a few days then we discussed what we were going to do. Adoption, Abortion, or keeping it. We decided to keep it and we are both glad we did. When I noticed my belly getting big I said hey babe my belly is getting big I think im pregnant again. So he had to get over the shock of that one and again we sat down and discussed our options. It took considerably less time.

Maybe just walk up to him after your trip and go hey ................ I think I may be pregnant can we get a test to see? This will probably go down much better as he feels like you are including him in the discovery process.

I wouldn't reccomend doing it on the phone. LOl. I phoned my partner last time and burst into tears then told him. A little sneaky but when you get back from your visit, perhaps sit him down and say, I am worried, concerned, have a suspicion, whatever word, that I am pregnant, offer to do a test in front of him (not literally unless you's are comfy with that. pmsl) and that you basically found out together. Hope it helps! Can't offer any advice on the inlaws cos mine always want more. Good luck and a big congratulations!

First and foremost, congratulations!

Being the grateful recipient of free NHS care in the UK, I can only guess at what is cheapest, though I do remember that homebirths are cheaper here as you dont have to pay for the hospital bed with all the overheads. And as a big fan of homebirths, I would definitely say it's good value for money anyhow if that's where you feel most comfortable! As for telling hubby, as it's early days you might want to wait until you get back from the family visit, so he doesnt have to deal with all their reactions or with his reactions in front of them (let him have some space) but I personally wouldnt leave it too long. As for how - I guess get him relaxed, get a babysitter so avoid interuptions if you can, be extra nice to him so he gets suspicious (!), give him a glass of beer and say "you may need this...!" and get it over and done with as quickly as possible. Well, that's how I would have done it, except I got too excited each time and told him straight away!

Good luck!

sorry sweetie i dont have an answer i just wanted to say congratuulations hope hubby takes it well much love xxx

I wanted to add, what about telling the family?  All my in-laws say it's to soon for another baby.  I don't want to hear that when we tell them, should I just let hubby do it by himself?  Should we wait until we have had the preggy confirmation via U/S (my doc does that instead of the blood test).  Like I said, we are not trying, (though secreatly I am ready and excited), but I guess God does have other plans for us....Help please!