Many men land women look at porn, and I am also one who wonders why. I asked my husband once why this is, and his answer was honest and to the point, why not? we get bored and sometimes theres nothing better to do, also it's there. Just because someone watches porn, does not mean that they are not attracted to their partners or that they are the type of person that would go a cheat on his girlfriend/partner/wife. If you wonder why your partner watches just ask him. Tell him the truth, you found it on the computer and this upsets you.

I think you should talk to him about it.  Look, some people enjoy looking at porn.  Some couple do it together.  You need to decide if it is a deal breaker for you.  You just need to do what makes you comfortable.  Try to understand that some people have different things that excite them.  For some it is toes, or tits, or tooshes.  Some like s&m, latex, role playing.  There are lots of different things and you need to figure out what you are comfortable with and try to roll with it.  But most importantly, talk to your partner...

can you please MM me as I would rather talk about this in private that on here. I have been through this to a point where I almost left my hubby.

I will keep everything in the complete confidence. 

i had this problem with a few of my exs i told them i see there looing at porn as cheating, i didnt mind them masterbating if i didnt want 'it' but doing that while looing at other people was concidered cheating on my behalve. and i got upset also and started deleting them but then i thought if i delete them it proves nothing and i got them to delete it insted and those who refused well now there my ex's, lol. the only thing you can realy do is tell him how you feel and if hes not willing to get rid of it then is he really willing to commit to your relationship?

Im like you and dont agree with porn, well i dont agree with it if the person is in a relationship. Alot of people accept it and even watch it together but for me its just sickening. When i first met my bf his computer was loaded with naked photos and he had a cupboard full of porn dvds. He did get rid of them tho becasue he said he didnt need them anymore lol..Even now he wont look at peoples phones ect when they try showing him, he really is now sickened by the girls how dirty they are lol..

You need to be opena nd honest and tell your partner how you feel.. I myself felt likeiw asnt good enough but i was then reassured he wouldnt look at the crap anymore. If youe xplain to him how it makes yu feel im sure he will stop, and put a block on your computer so it stops happening.

 I think sharing some porn between couples might be fine.....but doing it all behind your back, could be a problem and since it is upsetting you ( most likely more so becasue you found it & he has not spoken to you about it).....I think you need to face him with this and communicate your thoughts and feeling on this matter.

It might be all innocent and above board, but when soemone goes behind your back, it makes it hard to completely trust them and if you don't bring this out in the open, it will eat away at you.

But sweetie don't go blaming yourself, this is not because of you and you should not  have to go changing yourself for no one,  but yourself.

I wish you well.

Cheers Janice

hi there

me personal i dont think of it as a big deal, but you do so i would suggest talking to him being open and straight to the point.if it affecting you this way he needs to know about it you can block these sights but it is something you will have to discuss with him. remember straight to he point let him know where  you stand on the subject