When you find yourself about to blow up and lose your temper with your child, what are some of the techniques you use to calm yourself down? And I don't mean that you calm yourself from hitting your child, I want to hear your day to day techniques to keep from losing it.
I just go outside for 10 minutes and breathe really deep breathes and either walk around looking at the plants or sit down on the bench, and wait until the child or children involved have calmed down also.
This is such a great question. I'm sure evryone has felt this way at some point. When my twins were little and i was at breaking point, i'd make sure they were safe by putting them in the cot and go and have a shower. I felt aweful doing it, but it really helped and usually they'd be asleep by the time i got out. I also find putting them in the pram and going for a walk around the block helps. Try and organise your day the night before to avoid getting stressed, like get your clothes ready, re stock the nappy bag, pre make lunch if you have to. What ever it takes to make life easier for yourself when you know you're gonna be stress. Oh... and be kind to yourself!
This is what I have done a lot...put them in their cribs, even if they have to fuss for a bit, it is ok. Their doctor told me "no baby has ever cried himself to death". If they cry for five minutes so you can take a deep breath...well, then it is fine. They are safe and it will all be ok :)
Take a deep breath (through your nose, not your mouth)
Exhale (make the exhale last as long as you can)
If that doesn't help, try it slowly a few times.... Oh yeah and sometimes just screaming is good (just making a loud noise, not yelling) - the kids think it's funny and I feel better!
I try to find something that I enjoy watching my child doing or playing... That way I know I will enjoy and be calmed by the one thing that is annoying me.. Yes my kid annoys me... But he loves to dance, so when he is being a right pain in the butt, I put on the music and we dance....
He forgets what ever he is cracking the sads about and then we are both happy.. Music for me is the greatest thing that calms me down..
Tie em to the clothes line, nah just j/k (cos we have one of them stringy one any ways) but I usually make a cuppa, lock myself outside and have a ciggie, usually by the time that is done, I have calmed down and he is better for me just walking away rather than screaming and loosing the plot which i lost a long time ago. hee hee.
Otherwise He gets a time out and after that is a little quiet time where he will read a book and just chill for 10 mins cause I find he normally misbehaves if is especially hyper. Mmm quiet time!!
sometimes I say a long string of nonesense words like, "waccamakamoomoogaaga!!!" .. but longer than that of course. My son looks up at me strangely and laughs, then we both laugh.
UMM UMM UMM.. I'm still trying to think of some technics to calm down from lossing it... Umm nah sorry can't help i lose it all the time..lol... ohh well i do just walk away have a coffe and smoke that helps me anyway... let me know if you find a miricle answer to this one..
I don't know if this helps but I just go into my room shut the door and sit on my bed breathe and ignore any pounding at the door for just a few minutes until my head clears.
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