Hitting is serious. Also, if you've given them instructions that they don't follow, I'd be even more concerned. I'd suggest getting another daycare. This can save you a lot of troubles later.

It sure sounds like a frustratating situation. If you don't want to switch daycares right now, I would do your best to approach the daycare staff again kindly..Maybe give a compliment and then approach them about the napping as well as hitting situations..Bake them cookies lol..

The object at this time is to kill them with kindness as they say.This should help them let their guard down and be more receptive to input from you, the parent!

Good luck!!

simply approach the head carer and sternly express your concerns if your not  happy with the outcome of confrontation simply go somewhere else or your daughter will develop and anxieties about going to daycare and it will pose a problem when she goes to school.there should be displinary actions that the carer should be taking if there is hitting. also Do you want your daughter thinking it's ok to hit people and to be hit. 

Hi,

In the centre where I work, our parents are the "boss"... If a parent says a child is not to sleep, then that child reads books quietly while the others are sleeping. If we think a child needs sleep, for eg a child that is in from the time we open to when we close, then we will suggest to the parent that they have a half hour sleep, but ultimately it is up to the parent... They are trusting us to look after their children. Some of the workers DO think they know better than the parents, but I find that they are usually the ones who have no children of their own, and personally I would not send my child to a centre that I do not work in myself, or did not know the staff.... I would suggest checking that everyone has their qualifications or at least studying for them, as I have known of centres that employ people with no qualifications at all... As for the child that keeps hitting  your child, I would speak to the director about it, and insist that something be done... The director might be busy etc, but seriously, that is her/his job. We are lucky to have a wonderful director who spends a lot of time with the children and the parents... If you are not happy with how things are at your daycare, then you need to discuss it with your director...

I would definately talk to the Director about the hitting. A good centre would not let a child get away with hitting no matter who or what caused it. Teacher your child about how to deal with that kind of thing is a good idea, teach her to be assertive with her words and to walk away and not play with or near that child.

In my centre we have a sleep policy that we explain to all all the parents, If they don't want their child to sleep then that is fine, but if their child is especially tired, falling asleep or asks for a sleep, then we have to provide a bed for them and the minimum we can let them sleep for is 1/2 an hour.

The best thing you can do is voice your concerns to your director and be as open and honest as you can. 

I agree you should ask about the policy there as I don't think they should be telling someone to ignore a boy that has hit them. To ignore someone who is verbally abusive maybe but not physically so I would be asking about this. If she is numerously hit by him then I think that he should be watched, I don't care who is to blame as he should be keeping his hands to himself. I think that all daycares have a nap time or quiet time in the middle of the day. Can she just lie down and rest in this time? I think that they run it there way so that they can cope with there day so I don't know if they are saying they know better then the parents, they just have it in a routine so all the children need to do the same thing at the same time. They are human after all and it seems that the staff are getting younger and less adult to children ratio, or maybe I am getting older and it feels that way to me.

Have you discussed the hitting problem with the teachers? and have you discussed the problem with your daughter and given her ideas for how to deal with this.? I think you should teach her how to be assertive - after all this is an important skill she will need once she gets to big school where the teachers cana't see everyything going on in the playground!

Most daycares have policies and procedures that outline nearly everything they do!! Perhaps you should try talking to the management (not the carers) about the problme and find out what their policy is. Most daycares also have a parents group that reviews policies etc. But most people usually can't be bothered attending... (I know as I am involved in ours........ out of 70 families, ther are 5 parents!)  

I definitely don't think she should change centres - the same problem could exist anywhere - there are certainly bullies everywhere - we need to teach our kids how to deal with them.

About the nap - if your daugher wasn't really tired I find it hard to believe that she would even fall asleep.... Maybe she needs a nap.... - I do understand you probable reasons for not wanting her to have one - but I know that kids don' t usually fall asleep unless they are exhausted in the middle of the day.