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  anonymous | September 7th

I NEED HELP!

My son is almost 10 months old, everone who meets him can never believe how happy he is and asks if he is always like that, which he is...

In the last week that has all changed, i feel like he cries for 70% of the day and night, i really dont believe that there is anything wrong with him. I dont even really no how to get him to stop crying apart from picking him up, he'll be happy and then shortly after start winging.

I have always loved being a mum but now my hubby and i are fighty over what we should do (tried control crying, he lasted 2 hours before going to sleep, in the middle of the night that tough yaka) and im really starting to get depressed. please help me!



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sleeplessinil
September 9th | sleeplessinil
Re: I NEED HELP!

It is possible that the crying is due to teething, ear infection or something of the like if he is a normally happy baby!

Have you checked into these possibilities?

I wish you the best



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mellay
September 8th | mellay
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tis the age, my daughter nearly 1,it is hard especially when your preparing dinner and their at your feet grizzling.just pick him up cuddle till stopped crying/winging,explain to him what you are doing and mummy is busy,find his favorite toys and or occupie him while you are busy,or need a short quiet time.talking to them explaining they understand more than you think.(this will also increse their vocab and undrestanding)you may have to do this aferw times while you get things done get the sausepans out and a spoon let them bang away (if you can stand the noise )open up the plastics cupboard will make amess but he will be quiet for awhile.try the settling technique-lay him on his stomoch or fave sleeping posi and grab his nappy and rock him so his whole body rocks(but not shaking of course) you may have to do this up to half hour but it will lessen they will learn how to settle them selves with this.controlled crying just does not work!do you get a break?you need time out and away from your bub for afew a hours or a day a week to refresh.hang in there hope this helped alittle



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Finisterre
September 7th | Finisterre
Re: I NEED HELP!

There are number of possibilities, none of which will last for too long, so hang in there!

Apart from the things suggested by other people answering this question, he might be having a "wonder week" when his mental development is taking a big step forward.  It's quite common for a baby to be very clingy during those times.  

I hope he is back to his happy self very soon.



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winja
September 7th | winja
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oh hun! i dont have a great deal of advice but wanted to let u know my son is almost 10 months old too and is the same right now haha

i think its a bit of seperation anxiety which i dont really want to encourage so i reasure him while hes on the floor and continue what im doing regardless of if hes crying or not most of the time(unless he needs something of course!)

playing with your bub on the floor without picking him up will make him more confident to eventually be ok with being by himself.

and yes i had to do controll comforting also, which i was fully agaisnt at one stage and he self soothes now, theres some great advice on the subject on minti pop it into the search and have a look.

good luck it will pass so just keep telling yourself that and do the things u are happy to continue long term and buy some earplugs!

xxxnat



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cassaustin
September 7th | cassaustin
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It is normal to go thru this. At about 10 months my son was the same. Clingy, whingy, sooky and very cranky. He wouldn't even let me go to the toilet in peace. I dont know if there was any one thing that i did that helped. But my son was teething too. If you are sure he isn't teething or has an ear infection or stomache ache or anything, maybe you could try to take him out thru the day. Go to a mothers group, take him to the shopping centre (there are lots of cool things to look at and point to there) or take him to the park. Do you have family close by that can help out? Even for an hour is a blessing when they are like that. Basically, try to keep him amused all day and wear him out so that he sleeps a little better.

At night time, does he settle straight away if you go in and cuddle him? If so, then maybe try putting the shirt you were wearing for the day in the cot with him. This little trick helped me tremendously when my little man was being fussy! I just put it under his head for him to use as a pillow. He was sleeping thru within the week. If he needs a bottle or boob to go back to sleep, maybe try offering some water instead. They are less likely to wake for water than milk.

This stage will pass. I promise you. I seriously thought my son hated me for a little while there. But they are just learning that they are an indevidual person, and that is quite scary for someone so little.



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