Hello there, you really do sound at the end of your teather. Firstly if I were you, I would be talking to your Doc and School. Try to get them to have your youngster assessed by an Educational or Child Psychologist. Research Autistic Spectrum Disorders, and see if your little one fits the bill.

Does the school have councellors? Make an appointment to go see one, and discuss what behavioural programmes are in place to help both at school and home. Look at what triggers are setting him off. Watch his food intake, write down all he is eating and behaviour afterwards. Monitor his reaction to noise and touch ie, how does he react in large crowds, if he is touched suddenly without warning. How is he getting on at school, is he doing well or struggling.

Set your boundries firmly but gently, explain the behaviour you wish to see and emulate this yourself, be strong and consistent and never, never waver. Praise,praise,praise all good behaviour, infact go over board on good behaviour till you start seeing results.

Never be afraid to ask for help it is a sign of good care and loving parents. I wish you all the best. I have a Daughter with Autistic Spectrum Issues and is now the best behaved, most loving child one could wish for. It took a lot of hard work, and help from the powers a B.

Stay strong,Luv Winnie.xxxx

hi, my youngest is now 12 he was exactly the same from the age of 2 i tried everything  i took him to peaditrician diagnosed him with adhd when he was 5 put him on meds didn't do much really , but i found when he had these massive outbursts if i got down to his level and told him face to face i wasn't happy with what he was doing & spoke calmly instead of yelling i could make him understand easier ,yes it is hard and a long road but it does work and also take him away from the situation to calm down and get him to focus on something else . if i can be of anymore help to you don't hestitate to contact me.  regards sandy40

Hi!

I agree with seeking medical advice - your oldest may have an underlying problem that causes these outbursts. Something else to look at and try would be diet. I have worked with a lot of children with autism and behavioural disorders - many of their parents have found that wheat and gluten have a massive impact on behaviour. Once these items are removed totally from their diet, behaviour improves, learning improves, language etc. Other foods that can have an impact: additives and preservatives, particularly those in the 300's and 600's; salicylates found in some fruits, such as apples and bananas; obviously sugars. Speak to a doctor, and do some of your own research into the diet thing - it can't hurt to give it a go. Of course, all has to be paired with a great behavioural program that you are prepared to stick to, no matter how difficult!

Good luck!

Sounds like some boys that have  a LOT of energy!!! Have you tried putting them in a sport or some kind of physical activity? It sounds like martial arts would be good for them.  They will teach them self control in a fun, active environment. I hope you find a way to tame your rowdy boys, I know that must be wearing.

When u say you have tried everything, what have u tried...

This is what i would do if that was my children...

* Seek medical Advice to see if there is no Underlying reason why he is behaving like this..

* Set up a Behaviour chart. and reward him with a treat when his behaviour is good

* Take away Priviliges and Treats and explain to Him , that his behaviour isnt acceptable and when he decides to make better choices he may have them back, so take away something for a day or 2..

* Have him sit on a thinking chair, or Time out Corner. and have him Apoligise when his time is up, and have him explain why he was there, and how can he make it better so he doesnt end back there....

* Getting down to his level and keeping Eye contact and allowing him to know that his behaviour isnt acceptable, and doing the above may just be the key to him behaving better.

Hope it all works out for you all

xx cazza

I have no experience on this since my oldest is onl 3 1/2. But have you tried removing everything? No games, tv, radio/cd, etc. Sort of like starting out clean and then you can give them opportunity to earn them back by well defined (defined by you with your children's understanding and agreement) behaviors.

I hope you get great ideas that can help you out. Good luck.