I know everyone has said this alread but definitely get another Lawyer, try and get one that you can trust(I know I put lawyers and trust in the same sentence they dont usually go together) see if you can get a family laywer one that specialises in family dispute's because technical that is what has happened. Make sure the lawyer knows you are not happy with the current arrangement and neither is hubby, and that you put down certain rules like know drugs round ure child, and she doesnt want to follow that rule. Also keep a Diary of when you found out she was smoking pot in the nursery, when she doesn't show etc.

And remember NO-ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO TRY AND TELL YOU HOW TO RAISE YOUR CHILD, and most importantly Stay positive you will get through this.

Hope this helps

Cheers Queenie xoxoxxo

 I think you need another lawyer who will give you better advice. No-one has the right to smoke around your child.

She has neem a bo show for two weeks and I don't think the courts would expect you to put your life on hold for whenever she decides to turn up....I think you need to go back to court to have more suitable arrangements made.

I wish you well.

Regards Janice

i know it'svery upsetting,altough i did not go to court only consiliation,not only with th mil but the father also.they go through all that and then they don't follow the rules.she has breached the law and every right to go back and get it changed.if have the means go get another lawyer.i did all on my own and got it all on my terms as they were clearly thinking of themselves not the best interests of the child and the court saw that .wel she has breached is your son upset that she doesn't show? does she ring you to say she not coming?my daughter got very distraut that they never showed and didn't ring,i have phsycological evidence that they are not thinking in the best intersts of the child.hope this make sense.and as for the pot smoking it makes me  so angrey that the court would even hand over the child in their care at least order supervised access try that??moving interstate she'll be trying an injunction,if your hubby has already got the job try if you don't go you'll be in poverty approach. think off your child and your child only and how the no shows have effected him

Get a different lawyer !!!

Whether or not MIL smokes pot for medicinal use she can not smoke it around any child. If she is not showing up for visits then the courts need to be told this and you need to petition the courts to move for work.

my best peace of advice would be to see a different lawyer and see if they can do anymore for you.

Good Luck

 Lexi xxx

Hi anonymous,

As far as I know your MIL can't stop you from leaving the state to accept a job offer that is just ridiculous if she thinks that she can stop you from doing this.

She has no rights over you or your family when it comes to where you reside,and I would think that your lawyer  would have told you this.

Try and sit down with her and come to some kind of agreement as all that is happening here is that the lawyers are getting richer and your getting no where fast,the pot smoking in the nusery is unforgivable but you have no recourse since she says it for medicinal purposes but where is her brain doing that while her grandson is in the room.SHAME ON YOU GRANDMA.Keep your chin up and I hope everything works out for the best,Go away and start new life with your family and leave the riff raff behind,It will be their loss not yours.

I am so sorry you are in this situation.  I cannot believe your MIL has been given visitation every weekend.  Is it for the whole weekend or just part of the weekend.  As far as smoking pot in your sons nursery goes for medicinal use or not is harmful to your son and  has got to be illegal let alone morally wrong.  Surely you would not be stopped from moving interstate if it is going to benefit the family.  I would contact another laywer and get in contact with a local support service. You should also write everything down in a diary, such as when she doesn't turn up you can then have documented proof that she has not been adhering to the contact order.  This website might be able to help you out if you are in Australia www.familyrelationships.gov.au/ .   Good Luck.

I would be seeking a another Lawyer if you can and also contact a support worker in your local community to see if they can help you...

Hope things work out  for you, as this woman sounds  horrible...

xx cazza