Sounds like your husband and mine must be brothers!!! 4 1/2 years and 2 kids later, nothing has changed. I went back to work after my first was 10 weeks old, and with the 2nd when he was 8 months old. I start at 6 in the morning - am up at 5 every morning - and don't get to bed until 11-12 at night. Then I am up at 1.30 for the 2 year old. He sleeps minimum 7 hours EVERY night and MUST sleep in on weekends, and he's tired and I'm just a cranky bitch who wants it all her way....Sound familiar!!!!! Take comfort in the fact that the kids DO become better sleepers - hard to see the light, I know, but it does happen. When the baby doesn't need you for milk anymore, you just force them up, even if it means you are already fully awake and lying in bed. (other solution - bring baby in bed with you, shove hubby over, and get some sleep!).

You know in your heart how you feel about it.. Anybody else's standard of reasonable isn't relevant. If you are upset enuff about it to write to us, then you need to talk to him.. This is your life, your future, your relationship; so it needs to be your standards.

hugs

Rosalinda

I have found men aren't naturally sympathetic, so if you can state your case as calmly as possible (when he still doesn't get it), he should come around. And you being a woman are perhaps being too sympathetic to your husband. Sometimes you have to stand your ground. Yes he is tired, but tired after 7hrs sleep-how tired are you after less hrs sleep? You and bubby come first as no-one in your household will survive without you and bubby can't survive alone. And if you have a bad night-make it an easy day. Sometimes hubby gets toasted sandwiches for dinner and handed a bubby first thing when he comes home so I can shower. Remember to ask neighbours and friends for help too (I know not at 5am but during the day is fine). They used to say it takes a whole community to raise a child, not just two parents.

no! . Your not supermum, and i think as long as it not every night and all the time, sometimes you DO need help. he does work yes, he is tired, yes, but so are you. your job is 24 hours, his is 9(or whatever). you are allowed to sometimes rely on him for help. My hubby is fantastic, with getting up to the kids etc. when my girl was a baby, he insisted on getting up and helping. When he went back to work he got up without complaint, if i needed help.

Tell him your sorry he is tired, but so are you, and your job is 24 hours, and sometimes you just need him to pick up the slack. once in a blue moon to get up to the baby is not a hard thing. Its daddys job!

Good luck.. Just my opinion. I cant stand men that think mothers have to do all the raising and everything them selves.