Re: Teenagers
I'm not much older than your daughters; but I have grown up with siblings and also my parents dealt with the same type of situation with my brother. You're number one goal as a parent is to see your child succeed in life. Every parent wants their child to grow up and be the best they can be. People are going to tell you how to raise your daughters; but in all honesty we don't know your daughters and we don't know the kind of home life, or things they have been around for the last 15 years have effected them. Only you as a parent do. It's very hard on children these days, with peer pressure, anything goes. Especially in todays society. You as a mom, need to make sure you are setting an example. A lot of times children, will say " Well my mom and dad do this, so it's okay for me to do too." There needs to be a fine line drawn between what is acceptable for an adult, and what is acceptable for a child. Plain and simple, a child does not have the same mindset that an adult has. If they did, we wouldn't need parents, and the legal age wouldn't be 21. Kids will be kids, and kids will get in trouble and test the bounderies. We all do, and we all have, and we all have learned in the end. Don't give up on your daughters; there is a reason why they are acting like this. Supervision, Attention, and Boundaries. Keys to a teenagers life. Despite how they might act, they still love you, and want your attention. This might be their way of getting it. Re-evaluate their friends; "If Sandy jumps off a bridge, would you do it too?" Most likely yes. As dumb as it sounds, yes they probably would. Friends always have an impact in your life. Get them involved in sports, dance, drama, anything to get them away from drugs.
I'm not sure momma how to help you out; My advice would be to show them no matter what they do you still love them. Love conquers all. Not being a softie, but love. Everyone needs it.
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