well, i don't know alot about this myself, but I can pass on some wisdom that's been shared with me.

As for the learning wet from dry, some people try cloth diapers because they feel so yucky when their wet. The new high tech diapers keep the kids so dry, they don't notice. Great for babies, not so good for toilet training.

I've also heard of the naked kid approach, where you play with your kid in the kitchen or easy clean place, and whenever they start to pee, you have them go on the potty. Since the child is naked, the pee running down their legs is pretty uncomfortable, and they learn to associate the feeling with the need to sit on the potty to avoid it.

I will reinforce one thing the other mom's mentioned- it is very important not to create a power struggle over toileting. Doing so just delays the whole process, and causes a lot more problems than it's worth. It can actually set bad precedents that are hard to deal with later on.

I like the sticker chart idea. Just make sure your stickers are smaller than the boxes you draw, and it should work. A friend of mine let her son blow bubbles while on the potty so that he would contently sit there for his bowels to move instead of wanting to go play... he's a very active child. Trying to make potty time fun seems to help. Also, watching to see if they're afraid of anything helps... my sister and I used to be somewhat afraid fo the toilet bowel monster... it could only be found in public bathrooms where the sound was so different from home.

Also, if your child is nuts for a particular character, like Dora the Explorer, yeilding and getting a Dora potty might help... I know someone who did that and it seemed to help. The little girl was all excited to use her Dora Potty.

Be creative, be patient, and have fun!

I Am's Child.

Struggling with this one ourselves! I think with my 6 year old she gets too engrossed in what she is doing to notice that her bladder is full, and then finally she gets an overwhelming urge and has to sprint. We now know her signs better than she does "you're dancing - go to the loo!" "I dont need to!" "You do, you're dancing!" "NO!" followed up to a minute later by "I NEED A WEE!!!" I help all I can but at the end of the day, all I can do is prompt her, suggest going to the loo before meals and at play times, and keep on washing. I would ask the teachers to prompt her - she may put up less of a fight for them - and suggest she always goes to the loo before certain things like meals or activities she concentrates hard on, "just so you dont have to miss anything to get up & go to the loo". Might work! Good luck!

Well I may be a bit old-fashioned... I think kids will come around to using toilets when they are ready (not necessarily when we want them to). If I were you, I'd encourage (no kicking & screaming) her to 'make use of the facilities' & congratulate her whenever she does. But put whatever the 3yo equivalent of nappies is, on her just in case.

I recall a strange conversation I had with my daughter when she was about this age... She had a potty (a child toilet seat set up on a large icecream bucket) in her room. And I put a nappy on her at night (just in case). She took to taking her nappy off to go pee most nights so I'd end up re-using them (masking tape helps). I suggested to her that she might like to try going without the nappy... but she became most upset at the idea! Finally she calmed down enuff to communicate that she wanted her nappy; she wrapped her arms around her bum (thru her legs) to indicate that she liked the cuddly feeling of it. And I think perhaps she liked to have the no-pressure option that she could sleep without having to get up to pee if she wanted. So I kept up the ritual until one day (not very long later; perhaps a month or 2) she said she didn't need one that nite... & she didn't need one agian!

At the same time, her closest friend (same age) was struggling with the nappy/no nappy thing. She seemed to need the nappy thru the day most days. I really didn't think anything of it. These days I think there's toddler pants that are much like nappies. Why not use those? I really don't think its a good idea to make a big issue of it; in my experience, anything we make a big issue of just becomes worse.

Good luck!

Rosalinda

hi there.

i sometimes have this problem with my girl as well. Sometimes children do get over excited and don't realise they need to go to the toilet until its too late.

With my daughter i don't take no for an answer....even if it means picking her up kicking and screaming and putting her on the toilet,

As for the day care teachers, try asking them if they can encourage her more often.

Sorry i can't be of more assistance

good luck