i made my son face the person he stole from and pay them for what was done also involved a cop who was friend to talk to them about concequences and this worked however he was only 6 and scared easily

other options are to show them what stealing is like from another perspective as there must be things they treasure and what would they do if they were stolen ... make sure all household change is secure and then charge child for what they take

Stealing, to some people, can provide a sense of comfort. It's an offshoot of a hording instinct and a desire to own as much as possible, to feel safe and provided for. If she's not using the money to buy new things, or if she's not using the things she steals for herself, she may have some underlying concern that even punishment won't suppress. Ask her what she needs the things for, even offer to help her attain them (if possible, of course) if only to find out why she needs the things she's taking. If she can't tell you, perhaps the problem is deeper than just wanting things and talking it out (or even counselling) may be a help or an option.

This is tough. She obviously has made up her mind to do it. Is there any kind of reason she feels that justifies her doing it, even she probably knows it is wrong? Sometimes, I discovered my daughter feared a particular probelm would happen and that was why she took money from my mom and I. She knew it was wrong; yet, in her mind, she still felt is was "ok" because of what she feared.

I reassured her, explained why it was not possible for her feared happening to take place, and then reminded her that stealing is wrong. She did extra chore time equal or close to the amount she took. One chore per dollar worked well and the stealing is now every once in a blue moon, as the saying goes.

Try not to have cash on hand and make sure she knows that you know how much you have each day. This will get on her nerves; yet, she will be aware upfront and you may not have to do it for very long. I might say something like, "Hmmm, I need to buy ______. I have $____ and that will give me $_____ in change." This is not negative and it gets the point across.

I hope this helps!