I have a 17year old daughter who thinks she knows better than her parents. i've found trying to control her only makes it worse! Try and keep the communication open and let her know that it's her actions/behaviour that you don't like, not her. Assure her she is still loved and that you understand she is still in the learning stages of being a teen, just as you are still learning to be the parent of a teen.

Let her know there are consequences to her bad behavour certainly, but forget to praise her when she behaves well.

I'm told that this sort of behaviour is normal, they are just trying to assert their own personalities and boundaries, not just accepting parental control.

All the best

traceywestaway

look the child was born to be cute and loving they don't know that in 15 years time they will be teaching us things one as people and two as a mum. when we were kids we looked at every thing our old folks did as mad or wrong look i am a mum of four of the wild beasts and the ages are 15 girl 11 girl  9 girl and then 18 month old boy so when you say your at your last stand i get it but there will be a light at the end just not when you want it i know i cry every day that my 15 year old does not do the dumb things i did in my life by this is her life i am just here to pick up her picece when she needs me to .soory there is no great answer for kids being kids they think we want them to have no life and they just want to live life with our ok.

with a lot of love, an open honest non-jugemental relationship and ALOT of humour

Hi,

I was one of those teenages! as soon as I started highschool I knew everything and noone could tell me different....

Mum put up with me best as she could she let me make mistakes to teach me a lesson. it took a few years of me putting her through hell to say the least. we now have a very close relationship, and it is my son that is putting me through hell... What goes around comes around!!

let her make her own mistakes and learn from them.

Good luck

I have a 17 yr old and the only thing i had done when my daughter was going throuh this was give lots of hugs and understanding. we all went through this stage. just have a one on one and let her know thier are concequences for her actions and she is becoming a young adult and make a promise that to tell the truth to each other and if she gets into trouble no mater what happens youll always stand by her but only if she is truthfull.May be a bit hard but sometimes our teenagers need to make some choices on their own but as usuall us parents will always pick up the pieces.And never underestimte her choices always suppot even if we dont agree. my daughter holds confidence in confiding with me as i never judge her for what she has done .Hope this helps but parenting wasnt meant to be easy we just wish it was good luck.and last but not laest let her know she is still a minor and their are rule to follow just like adults we have rules too.

Hi, I find that this is a transition period and the children wish to be treated as adults and they are learning to be one. It's time for us to put faith in them, a little at a time.

 As parents, we really need to keep trying and trying to get across to them. But first, we have to show that we care. We need to do things with them and and find the time to spend with them. When they are comfortable and respectful of us, they'll listen to us.

Best of luck.