I have been in this position and the best thing is to sit her down and tell her what you are feeling as this is what i done and it worked.   But I also make sure I keep grandma grandpa envoled as much as possible,  they were both very under standing at the time they still can be over powering but I just let them no and they settle back down

Hi

I think losing someone is a hard thing to get over but the best thing for you and your son would be to sit her done and talk to her and tell her what you are feeling. let her know you are there for her and it is hard on you aswell but you have to be strong for your son and he does not need to be reminded his dad is not around. Maybe try taking her to some  group and get her involved in the coommunity and she will feel better and not be so over powering.

Theres not much you can do except talk to her, find the right time and talk calmly.. preplan what your gonna say ans what you want to change so you go into the conversation in control and on track.. stand your ground

good luck xoxo

Don't ya hate that. Telling her off will only make it harder. If you can sit down with her quietly and let her know that you are there for her to talk too, you might be surprised at the outcome. If you don't do something like this now she will only get worse and your son will be the one to suffer. Try and make her understand that she is not alone in her grief. Maybe try to get involved in a group thing like scrapbooking, even a yoga class. It will be very therapudic for you both.

Good Luck with that.

Rimmos