I have the same problem,your just over tired and you don't have that get up and go and the body clock just shot and your normal routine is out of whack.It's hard yes and i feel as though as soon as you hit the pillow bubs hears this and up you have to get!!you just love the me time when you stay up.when bubs get into more sleep time so will you but you just have to break that 2 am bedtime cycle.so what if the dishes are left or the washing sits for another few hours,you just need to be the best mum you know how and that's all that matters.have you got a child health nurse?go see her she may have hints on bonding and excepting bub.just deal with the absolute nesecities and the rest will come.good luck hope this helped a little

After I had my first child I found it soooo hard to connect with her as i resented her because of the labour and the pain that I felt while giving birth to her and I went and saw a dr who put me onto anti depressants which helped. I also had another baby recently and even tho I dont resent her I find it hard to cope some days and feel depressed. My partner has also commented on it, so getting help or finding someone to talk to would be the way to go.

I didn't think I was depressed just after my lil boy was born, but I always just wanted my boy near me, I hardly even trusted my partner or my family with my son let alone my In-laws, in the end everyone was saying you are depressed I didn't believe it. Til my parents dragged me to the dr's and pointed out the signs I had to my dr. He said yes you are depressed, but it isn't too bad just keep an eye on youre moods, just after that I realised what my moods were, and just left my son to scream for a bit.

This even works now to keep me calm and in control. My son also senses my moods and if i need a timeout he usually won't scream for too long in his cot. I would suggest you take either your mum or partner to the dr. wat is the harm in getting checked out, the worse that can happen is that you have it and can get treatment and the best that can happen is that you have reassured your mother and bf that you don't have it.

Hope this helps

Cheers Queenie

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If you are finding problems with bonding with your baby that is a sign of postnatal depression. Also you said that you have lost all motivation by not wanting to do anything that is also a sign.

The thing is you do not need to go and see a Psychiatrist. All public hospitals which have a maternity ward also have a womens health clinic and in these clinics you can request to see a mental health nurse and they can organise some one too come and talk to you and help you. She would also keep an eye on you.

You can also go to. Here in SA it is child and youth health. They organise some one to help you at home. which is always very handy but they also give you some one else to talk to.

Since it might be a bit of a wait there is always you local GP to go and see. They can organise the small things while you wait. Like free sessions with a psychologist or counsellor which also can be very handy.

good luck.....

As people have said below having depression does not always mean being depressed...

It is amazing that sometimes people pick up on things that we don't from time to time, and it often pays to listen to them...

I understand that you say you do not like your little one because of how she came about.  Anyone I have ever spoken to who have had a child because of certain circumstances, have never said they dislike their child, they don't like how the child came to be, but are not upset about the end result... 

I would suggest at least seeing someone talking to someone, and it is possible that you are suffering from some form of depression...  Believe it or not sometimes mothers yes and even husbands can pick up on little things that you just don't normally do...  And sometimes it takes them to point it out to you to realize you have a problem...

I hope it is nothing and all will be fine, and that you learn to love your little one, but if it were me, I'd be seaking medical advice just to be sure..

Depression doesn't have to be about hurting yourself or others but that is what depression can lead to. The best way to describe depression is feeling numb and empty all the time - like you don't exist. Depressed also doesn't mean you are sad all the time as it can encompass a whole range of different emotions. If others are picking up on the warning signs and they are people that you love then put your trust in them and go and see someone. It will put your mind at ease and if it turns out you don't have depression then you are very lucky and you can explain the findings to your partner and mum.

I have severe depression and I don't do anything around the house either which is another warning sign. Of course new mums are tired and it is hard to get things done but to the point of not doing anything at all every day is a definite warning sign. So is disliking your newborn - feelings like this just aren't normal. Perhaps there were underlying circumstances about how she came about  but if you're feeling badly about them then you should talk to somebody about it.

I hope you can get the help you need and put your mind at ease. Hang in there!

well disliking your infant isnt normal so my guess is it is some level of deppression

go see a dr,  psychiatrist (sp) or counselor  your local health centere can give you some reccomendations.

Sooner you do the better as it will only get worse

Some ppl have had post natal depression for years  befor it is diagnosed

you can do some research intom it on your own online

Good luck and get well

i noticed you said you dislike your newborn for how he came to be, do you mind if i can ask how she came to be ? im sorry if too personal