You are worried about whether ending a friendship was right or wrong, and I sit here and ask, "What friendship?" For you to have a friendship with her to end, she has to be your friend in the first place, and it sounds like she wasn't a friend at all, not to you anyway! You may have been her friend, but she was never yours.

Let it go, move on, and let karma take over. Good people often get mud thrown at them for trying to do the right thing, but if they stick to their guns the mud doesn't stick for long as eventually people find out the truth, and it makes the person throwing the mud end up being the one covered in it - and that kind of mud sticks to them for a very long time.

 These types of friends are not worth worrying about and other people will see through her in no time.

My concern is for her children, what a life they are having, they are going to grow up with such low self esteem, it is so sad.

Cheers Janice

Hi there,

For what its worth I think that you have done the right thing . .  sometimes in life we have to make some decisions that really need to be made and surrounding yourself with negativity and people whom won't accept help is a real downer and if we are not careful it can drag us down with them.

In my life so far I have come across many people that are like this so called friend of yours and to be honest it never does seem to end well . .  This 'so called' friend of yours is saying and do these horrible things because for her it is easier to blame you and to admit that she is wrong and that she has lost a really good friend.

Don't let what she is doing effect you at all, just continue on with you life as you normally would ..  Trust me when I say that other people will eventually see her for what she is . .  WALK TALL as you have done what is right for you and your family and at the end of the day that is what a GOOD parent does . .

Cheers Kellz

Hi Penny, I believe that you have done the right thing! It sounds as if this women was not a real friend at all, and was bringing a great deal of negativity into your life. You are obviously a good person and were only concerned about the welfare of the children, and if you still believe them to be treated poorly i agree with the advice on contacting Family services.

Whilst the situation was different, i recently terminated a friendship that was causing me a lot of stress and bringing way too much negitivity in my life. This "friend" also started posting untruths about me on the net. I found it very difficult to deal with and understand, I didn't retaliate and found myself avoiding the sites so as not to be upset by what I might find. But found I was only missing out and letting her have power over me that she didn't deserve to have. Real friends will know the truth about you, and as hurtful as the lies and negitive exposure may be, that is all that really matters.

Good luck, i hope you work through it all ok

personally i think you have done the right thing, because friends like that will only do your head in. In relation to her putting you down online just ignore her as long as you know the truth thats all that matters and if you ignore her long enough she will get the message and go away. But if you are concerned about the children there is always the option of callin the department of child safety i know no one likes doing that but if there are real concerns its always an option.   I had a friend who was the same, ending my friendship with her was the best thing i ever did i am less stressed cause im not worried about when she is going to call next.

Good luck

you so did the right thing, you dont need people in life bringing you down like that anyone that really knows you will know that she is just talking s**t. I to had a friend that would ring allll the time and in the end i had to stop answering her calls and i havnt herd from her in over a year.

chin up and understand that she was never really a good friend look after yourself and yours and know you are better than some.

love AnitaXXX