Hello Charza

My children were never biters or aggressive so I didn't have this dilemma.  having said that, they were not angels either LOL

Time out works for some children, as does retaliating once or twice when all else has failed.  Just remember that if you place a child in their bedroom, they are not going there to play, but to sit on the floor or bed and consider why they are there.  From 3 onwards they start to get it but many parents think their child "doesn't understand".  They are amazingly manipulative creatures sometimes!

1-1 time with him is a great idea too and the threat of maybe not having time to do something special later will certainly give hime something to think about!

I know some experts say aggression breeds aggression, but sometimes little kids get so caught up in their "mood" that nothing will get through to them.  The occasional smack on the bottom will not harm a child or cause emotional scarring.  I'm not talkig beating here, just one or two firm smacks on the fleshy part with an open hand, then get down at eye level, hold his arms still and say in a firm (without shrieking) voice that "Mummy will NOT tolerate you biting or pinching her and nor will anyone else because it hurts" then get up and walk away.  You will probably find it takes only a couple of episodes before he gets the message.

If that fails, when he is calm, tell him that the NEXT time and every time he lashes out you will take one of his toys (start with the absolute favourite) and put it up on the fridge, and he will get it back when he can go from waking time to lunch with no outbursts.  He will be able tos ee it but not reach it (this in itself may cause a tantie, so take another toy and tell him the more he misbehaves, the less toys he will have to play with.

Yes, initially he will be angry, but this will teach him that good behaviour will earn back his toys.  This is one of the most effective methods I have used and seems to work with all children (whereas some other methods don't)

I've parented 4 children and my best advice is that the earlier we teach them that there is a consequence for every action, the better off they are in the long run.

Sharon

my son is three, and goes through the same tanties!! thankfully he doesn't throw em while we're out; it's a home thing!! the best thing, that works for both my son and myself is when he throws a tantie, he is placed in his room, by himself, with the door closed; he is also told not to come out until he is finished! obviously being three he doesn't listen! so it's put him in his room again, eventually he'll stay there; it's just a matter of being persistent!
As for biting; it may sound cruel but it worked with my son; he bit me 1 day, so i bit him back! not 2 hard, but hard enough so it gave him a shock!! he has never bitten again!

It sounds like he's trying to get more attention. (I'm not saying you don't give him heaps of attention but some kids need more no matter what).

Could you set some time (15 - 30 mins) each day that you just sit down with him and do something together, no interruptions. You could do a craft project, play with cars, or something else he'd like to do.

Then when he does chuck a tamtrum you can say if you waste mummy's time like that we might not have time for our special time later.

I hope this doesn't come across badly, I just thought it might help.

Sorry just thought about this have you tried timeout for the tantrum, it walks wonders with my children.

I know this is going to sound a bit rough but my 2 year old man was biting me, and i tried everything, but biting him back actually has shocked him and he has never bitten me on purpose again.