i went through the same thing. my man only had one day off work when i gave birth, his was the only income, and i became very stressed out, i didn't see him often because he did a 12pm-9pm shift, and the love just kinda slipped away. it got to the point where i hated being touched by him, his compliments just annoyed me, i was always trying to argue with him, even though he avoids arguments like the plague, we ended up sleeping in seperate rooms, and almost broke up, i wanted to but he wouldn't leave lol.

i do have a theory on this, its probably totally crazy though lol

i think its a natural defense mechanism, to stop us from having children again too soon, so the baby we have now gets the best chance because it doesn't have to share its mother and her nourishment. it sounds kinda crazy, but if you think about it, a looong time ago human were once pack animals, they didn't form a relationship with a single person, that kind of love didn't exist, and after giving birth i guess the revulsion set in to stop her from having sex and becoming pregnant before her baby had gotten enough to have a decent chance at surviving. it worked for them, but its not relationship-friendly.

hm, it sounds even crazier now i've written it down lol

most women do go through this, its almost never storybook perfect, and my baby girl is now 5 months old, and i can feel myself beggining to love him again. its not the same magical lusty love that it was before the baby, more of a tender family type love, but its getting stronger, so all i can say is don't give up on him yet.

 What a joy to read about this as I've also been feeling similar. My bubba is 13 months but it's harder for some to be intimate etc when your tired & on call 24/7. When it's time for affection etc I just want to put my feet up & just be alone for the moment. But if I really sit & imagine life without him, then it brings the reality back. I love my little family dearly. Best of wishes to you & lots of light x

i've been going through this wiht my babies dad it's hard do you really love him can you see your self with him when your old?? those are the ?? o ask myself, it helped my babies need a dad i dont want any more babie to any one else now we have been together for 3 yrs now. it's up to you but do you love him want to go out with him, or is this a stage in yourlife you are going through.. your doc is a dick.. you may be postnataly depressed....

You know I think it might be quite a common thing. I have the same feelings, alough not to the same extent. Reading the other answers here I think what Kittykrewson said is to true - my body is not interested in me reproducing again.

I find that although I know I still love my husband, I am just not sexually attracted to him at the moment, with a little one your priorities shift and now you are on call 24/7 and along with extra hormones its all a little topsy turvey.

I think if you are worried about it though, perhaps tell your doctor again and ask for a referral to speak wtih someone, although I think it is common, it might help for you to talk it out with someone?

I also go through periods like that around once a month too. I think it has something to do with the hormones that bring out our insecurities.  Hormones are changed when you give birth and are nursing as well.  Some women are just more sensitive than others.  Also I noticed after giving birth to all of my four children a definite decrease in desire for my husband.  I think my body was not interested in me reproducing again for awhile and all of my attention was on taking care of my little one. 

I truly believe its probably hormones and with time they will even out again. Try exercising it helped me during my last post partum down moods and also helps during pms now. 

I would blame hormones and stress. I'm pretty sure everyone has felt that way at some point, so don't worry, it will pass.

Your child is only six months?, it takes our hormones quite a while to recover from childbirth so i'm told. I had similar probs after my second child(many years ago now). So try not and stress too much about not wanting to be near your hubby, your no doubt you are very busy just caring for the child it seems understandable to  me that you don't have the energy or emotional reserves to show hubby you love him. As to are you still in love with him?? well that's your call in the long run, but don't give up on your relationship too soon. try and organise some alone time with him eg. go out and have lunch together, the sort of things you may have done when you were just going out and see if that rekindles the attraction. Remember to talk to your hubby and explain that you just need some time to adjust to your life changes and your body changes as well, it sounds like a loving fella i'm sure he will understand.

All the best

traceywestaway

i think it could be all the pressures you are facing. once a baby is born there is alot more on the mind than your husband. try walking each day with the baby. excercise will help you to feel good about yourself and also will help get you back to your pre preg shape!!

HI,
I think your doc is right. I feel like that for about one week every month about my man, and he is also very caring and loving... I think in my case sometimes it's a self protecting thing because I worry sometimes what if he turns out like my ex, even though I know in my heart he never would... I only started feeling like that in the last few months, and I think it's because I am no longer in my twenties, and I have started thinking what if I muck up my 30's like I mucked up  my 20's etc etc... Sometimes we women think too much! You have just had a baby, and it is a life changing thing, and  maybe subconciously you are a bit worried that you are making the wrong decisions/choices, even though you know in your heart you are making the right one?