I know my friend wants to give it another try, and my husband spoke to her husband and he says he wants to as well.  The only problem is that the other woman wants contact and my friends husband doesn't see the problem.  The other woman wants to "give her side" which my friend (and I) think is all about getting my friends husband to stay with her.  My friend has kids and the other woman is married, but doesn't have kids. 

When I said "just in case", they have counselling booked for tomorrow and they have already seen counsellors individually.  Part of the question was relating to custody too.  If my friends husband contacts the other woman my friend wants him out of the house until a councellor says that they are ready to move back together, and who gets custody in the meantime and does my friend risk loosing her kids if she can't save the marriage?  The STD issue has been raised.

Hope this helps clarify further.

Jodi

hi there, i am just reply back to ur comment... ARE U SERIOUS, that women wants to give 'her side to the story'.. what side is that-- stealling a husband, destorying a family.... i dont think so! in my opinion which no one has to take but i sooooo wouldnt give her anytime of the day! she has ALREADY mostly likely made ur friend feel like a fool by her husband and her fooling around behind her back....so give her nothing! if the other women feels bad SO SHE SHOULD!. i honestly think that the other woman wants to remain friends just so she still feels like she has a chance with ur friends husband. if the husband sees no problem being friends with the "other" women then that doesnt look good either, as ur friend is most likely going to feel stress/anxiety thinking when he is out, is he doing the other woman still (especailly since they will remain friends!!!) HELL NO. if he wants to fix their marriage he should have nothing to do with her and concentrate on his wife!!!!  for sure get something written up to do with the custody of the child while things are probably still nice between them both... (i was informed by a lawyer that the children are more likely stay with the mother, the only time children are taken from the mother if there is a safety risk or if she cannot provide a stable environment)

and why should she lose the kids if she cant save the marriage, wasnt it him who strayed? goodluck with ur friend xxx