If you  are happy having him in your bed then do it !!! :) Do what feels right for you and your son....try not to listen to negative advice and do what feels right. He will not suffer in any way from sleeping in your bed with you....I have 5 children and they all slept with me at one point or another and they have grown up wonderfully....very healthy and intelligent...I hope this helps you a bit :)

Hi margamorena,

It's probably not ideal to have your little one in bed with you all the time. It will make your life especially difficult as he grows. To wean him away from your bed, try beginning with his day sleeps. And don't be afraid to let him cry a little. Keep yourself busy for few minutes and see if he will settle himself. Otherwise, try putting something with your scent on it underneath the cot mattress and perhaps your smell will be enough to settle him in the new bed...

HI, I am breastfeeding my 2 lil ones, 19mths and 7mths, they both have their own beds in our room but they always end up in bed with me and hubby, they only wake up when they are hungry which, lately hasnt been that often. I love having them in bed with me although, hubby does get jammed up against the wall! Its so much easier to just roll over and feed bub on each side and having the littlest bubs cot against the bed gives me peace of mind knowing that neither bub will roll off. As long as you feel comfortable having your bub in the bed then dont worry about what other people say and its so true! You do sleep lighter when they are in the bed with you.

Both my sons slept in bed with me and I found it to be a very enjoyable experience that also helped us bond. I think that it's a very natural thing to want to be close to your baby when they sleep. There's nothing better than waking up to your baby smiling at you and giving you a cuddle.

I had many well-meaning friends and relatives tell me that I should practice controlled crying to get my sons to sleep alone in their cots, but I just couldn't bring myself to do it, it didn't feel right.

As far as creating bad habbits, I think that it all depends on the way you deal with the transition of your little one moving to his own bed as he gets older. I've just put my 20month old son into his own bed recently and I have had no problems at all. Every child is different and you can just sense when your child is independent enough to make the change.

There's nothing wrong with your child sleeping in a cot or sleeping next to you, you have to choose what is right for you and your baby.

Hi there, the only negative I have ever heard against co sleeping, is if the Mother/Parents are smokers or Drugs and Alcohol. The Chemicals and Toxins from the tobacco stay in the smokers, skin,hair, clothes, lungs and blood stream apparently. The body works at getting rid of these toxins overnight through breath, glands and pores, therefore these toxins could be harmful to bub if they inhale etc.

As I say that is the only negative I've heard of. Best Wishes and enjoy motherhood, it is awesome,LOL.

Luv Winnie.xxx

i had my daughter in my bed up to 3 weeks ago and she's now 9 months, i thought it was fine. but  as for the sleeping in his cot i had to do controled crying. it's hard but it worked rite now she's asleep in her own bed.

its up to the parent .i have 5 kids and all except 1 sl;eeped in my bed since they were 1 day old .i got more sleep adn so did they ,as long as your not a deep sleeper.but go with what works for you.

i dont believe in letting my kids cry themselves to sleep .no no

my youngest is 1 and since day one i couldent put her down she would always cry and she still does it ,she satys in her bed maybe 1 hour a day if iam lucky ,if your partner dont mind .then go with it .when he is 2 then try getting him into a bed of his owwn even if its in your room for 6 mths then move the bed into his own room. by the time he is 3 he will get the hint ,as they get older its easier to persist and put your foot down than it is when they are babys .becuase when they are older you can explain to them they are to big to sleep in your bed and even if it means given them a light or pet to sleep in their bed .all my kids were like that i worried id have them in my bed till they were 5 or more but by the time they were all 3 they were in their own beds .

NO it's not bad as long  as YOU are comfortable with it. I haven't heard of passing illness back and forth because of co-sleeping though. As long as you and your partner are fine with it, I'd do it.

As the baby gets older though you may want tto try and wean to a cot or crib so that you can move about the bed more freely.

my son is 6 months and teething and the only way he sleeps is if hes snuggled next to me in my bed.  i have alot of people tell me things like " he'll never make the change to his own bed" and "he will get to clingy" i think if you think your son sleeps better with you then good on you.  it also build a stronger bond between you both.

i say keep your son in bed with you for as long as you like. what your doin is right in your heart

I do not think it is bad, my 5 year old still comes and sleeps with us if he has had a bad dream... I  think it makes the child feel more secure, and while it may not be for everyone, I personally think that since they grow up so fast and are little and wanting cuddles for such a short time it's nice while they want to.... if you are concerned with it, then put his bed right next to yours for a while until he gets used to it... If your husband is in bed with you also, then make sure the baby is on your side, so hubby cannot accidentally roll onto him, as men sleep more heavily than us mums...

I too have a 3 month old, only a daughter not a son, and while she will only sleep in her bed now, for a while there, she was in bed with me.

Co-sleeping is safe for your baby, as long as you don't cover them up with your blankets, I always had her bedding which is baby sized and more appropriate.  It did mean I slept lighter, so I was more tired, but at least everyone else in the house got a good nights sleep.

If you are wanting to get him to sleep in his own bed, you could try making it into a play area for him with toys hanging down where he can see and reach them.  Our little girl often puts herself to sleep just by playing for a few minutes.

I'm constantly asked how I managed to get my bubs into her own bed, and sleeping through the night, but to tell you the truth, I have done nothing different this time round than with the other 4.  I think sometimes it depends on the baby too.

Ive not heard of health problems, but it does create bad habbits- i did the same for my daughter and it took me till she was almost 5 to get her to stay all night in her bed.. if i could go back.. try weaning him into his cot by starting when he falls asleep place him in or leaving him longer etc- check to see if the sheets/mattress is a problem air light could be something you didnt notice before that may be making him anxxious in his cot also. GOODLUCK

Well in some cultures co-sleeping happens until a child is even school age so fromw hat I ahve read the jury is out - depends who you ask about it.

However, I think I have read that there is a higher incidence of SIDS with babies who sleep with parents.  also, if you have been drinking (even 1-2 glasses of wine) it is more likely that a baby can be smothered accidentally, and smokers or regular drinkers shouldn't sleep with babies as they are breathing close to them and it's not healthy.

Maybe now is a good time to start moving him to his own bed - even just putting a cot next to your bed so he knows you are close?

BUT it is every parents perogative to make the choices they think are best for thema nd their child so it is up to you.  Maybe talk about it with your GP or baby nurse and see what they think - and do some online research yourself to read what other opinions are.

Good luck - he looks like a real cutie by the way!!

Sharon