Hi there,

My little 2 yr old is always quite sooky and seems tired when she wakes up too . .  All we do is go and sit  with her on the lounge and let her have a some cuddle time until she is ready to move, this usually only lasts for 20-30 minutes then she is up and off.

As for the whole food issue, its sounds to me as if he is what is known as a 'grazer' and beleive it or not its actually very very normal . . Before us humans became more civilised that was how we ate - there were no 3 meals a day! It was simply just eating when we were hungry . .  WE too have this problem with our 2 yr old so each morning we offer her brekkie as normal and then set about making up some healthy snakes for here to go to as she wants.

We put these snacks in little containers with lids and line them up on the bench . . I know it seems like a silly think to do BUT its not and most dieticians etc will agree that this is the best way to handle things . . Later on as our kids grow they will settle into a pattern and then we will look back with a smile on our faces wondering what we were worried about . .

Take care . .  Kellz

I feel for you it sounds like hard work!!  Personally, i would remove him from my lap and ignore him if he starts head butting.  If he wants to be held he will soon get the message that you wont hold him if he is hurting you.  Explain to him it hurts too.  Communication is limited but you would be surprised at what they do understand.

To me it is strange that he is tired after a four hour sleep.  Have you ruled out illness?  But  sometimes my guys will take a little to wake up properly and be happy after a sleep.....maybe just sit down with him quietly and let him wake up properly.  You know what it's like waking up after an afternoon sleep, sometimes we feel worse!!

HI Queenie first of all he shouldnt be hitting mummy that is a no no

I know hes only young but 6pm is a little early for bed as I can see your wanted to change this.

I know it will be hard at first but you need to keep him awake as long as possible aroung 6pm read books, go for a walk,play in the garden just take his mind off going to bed at this time i know he is young but the younger the better i always say when it comes to children or evefn try stretch it out until 6.30pm and then give him a loverly warm bath and then by 7pm get his pj's on and then its time to relax sit with him and tell him right its story time and read him a book then by this time it will be bed time.

My dauhgter goes to daycare in home family daycare and tammy the teacher has a naughty mat now if tehy hit , shout, bite and doing anything else they shouldnt be doing is put them on teh naughty mat making shaw its in the same place all teh time so they know thats the naughty mat he will proberly get off it more times than you can emagine but your the adult here and he needs to learn that your the boss of him and he has to listern.

but when he starts his tantrums and wont listern put him on the naughty mat for 1 min at a time give it ago it worked my my children and my youngest is 10 months and he knows wat is right and wrong

i know it all sounds harsh but you CANT give in or they will never change

good luck  and let me know how you go ta Debbie xx

 

This may seem harsh but this is what my doctor told me to do when it cam to my little girl doing the same thing.  She is now 7.  My doctor said for me to ignore it.  Stating its a way to get attention, if you ignore bad behavior then praise good behavior he will soon see which one gets results to his goal and do that.  It worked with my daughter.  As for the sleeping pattern, you are his mom, put him to bed at a time you feel is the right time, and only let him get out of bed when you feel he has had enough sleep, slowly his pattern will change, and life will become easier.  You may also want to see if maybe he is having night terrors which will not really allow your child to get full rest from a full 8 hours of sleep.

I had a patient (worked as a pedicatric nurse at hospital) who had a sever head trama, the parents where being accused of causeing it, even after they said they woke-up and he was like that,  however one night I pulled a double shift and I found out how he got his head trama.  He was acting out his dream.  He was sleep walking, well I had to watch him and prevent him several times from running into a wall, his injuries came most likely from a fall down some stairs or running into walls and who knows what else.  I know your son isn't that extream, but he maybe having night terrors!

Best of luck to you!

Rebecca

ask yourself why is he having a tantrum?is he demending ?he isent over tired he sounds like he sleeps perfectly good more than my kids lol

i think it may be boredom and attention seaking.maybe have a few things for him to do.have him help you with the chores maybe ,take him for walks .or read abook,play games .when he goes for a tantrum put him in a corner somewhere safe,or if you dont like the tantrum because you hate him going off give him the funny side of you,make fun of him or give him tickles.he will forget why he was going off his head in the first place.unless he becomes violent then put your foot down.

are you haveing him at the birth ?

some say and i founfd out this to be true .with all my kids .

that children when they see their sibling be born they grow up.its like they have less tantrums ,adn they want to be helpful like they have to behave as they have someone to look out for.instinct.

when you have a new baby,have him help change his /her bottom,brush the hair ,putting shoes on.you'll be amazed what kids turn out like.