Pick your battles wisely !

Chocolate for breakfast is better than for dinner at night, when kids get hyper because of it.

That way, by picking your battles wisely, you don't fight every front all of the time. You can say yes to something now and then. Like everything else, say yes, but reinforce this is a special treat, it is not for every day !

Observe your childs demands and then based on those, work out in your mind and heart what you will and will not say yes / or no, to. That way, your mind is made up in advance, and it is easier for you, as the child will quickly tune into you dancing on one foot or the other if you are unsure !!

Good luck !

 

All kids do this..

We have a rule in my house..  If they ask one parent and don't like the answer and the other one gives a different answer..  Tough luck.  The answer from the first parent stands.  The second parent even if they don't agree will back up the first parent and we'll discuss it later.. 

For example.

Child comes to parent 1 and asks if they can have a new toy.  Parent 1 answers "no" and gives reason.  Child goes to parent 2 and gets a "yes".  Child then gets the new toy. 

As soon as we become aware of what has happened..  ie..  Parent 1 see's child coming out of the store with a new toy.  The toy would be returned if it was not opened.  Taken off the child if it had been opened and put away for another time.

As a result it doesn't happen very often, because they know it doesn't work.

Sounds familiar, my teenage daughter does the same thing!! It get to me too. It seems that no matter what age they are, they work out pretty quickly that if they don't get what they want from one parent, they probably will from the other. Just stick to your guns and talk to your partner so that hopefully you can both agree on what the answer should be. If you both start saying the same thing the child may get the message.

Good Luck

traceywestaway

i dont think i know one family where this hasnt happened. my sister and i used to do it all the time, its just something kids do.  plus every family has a weak parent whether its u or hubby.

talk to ur hubby/partner  and let him know it starting to become a problem,  and get him to talk to ur daughter

my mum used to say go ask ur father and my dad would say go ask ur mum. or it was wat did ur mother/father say.  

Don't couples talk to each other any more? You need to have a conversation with him & ask him to back you up; no-matter-what (doubtless he will want the same agreement from you).

Or you could say to little Miss 2; "Daddy & I will have to talk about that." & ask him to say; "Mummy & I will have to talk about that".

My father used to say, "What did your mother say?". (no doubt about who wore that pants in my family) & occaissionally my mother used to say; "Go ask your father."

These simple tried & true methods work just fine; it only involves a little communication between parents.

Once she realises its going to be the same story no matter who she goes to, she'll stop doing it. She's only doing it b/c it works for her.