Hi there,

I would be extremely upset!!!! I would be asking a few deep down questions such as if he is like this now, what's he going to be like as a father once his baby is born...will he expect you to go out at night with bub???? Read sleep deprived , tired, feeding etc.. etc...

I would come straight back at him next time with"yes darling, women have babies every day, but how many women that are 7 months pregnant or more do you see waddling around the pub, club or out after 8.00p.m..." tell him to take note because unless it is an extra special occassion...he will find there are very few. In fact, I would insist that he comes along to the birthing classes and ask the question of your equally pregnant co-students. He will get a resounding ear bashing!!! How dare he expect that of you!! He obviously has not picked up on the fact that you are feeling quite shattered by the end of a normal day, never mind having to go out on top of it!!!

You could...all of a suddden start to get twinges and pains- make them convincing..... make him worried VERY worried next time he wants to make you go out. His response to a crisis will let you know what the future holds!

Best of luck my dear, he needs a shock and if that doesn't work, he needs the boot! Fair and square up the backside!

First of all Im a father of two. Now it befuddles me of the male insensitivity towards people let alone their partners. Now If I were a woman with the same veiw as I have now as a male, I would really ask myself, do I want anymore children with this person? If this person cant understand this situation now, how is he going to be able to understand me or our children later when we are really going to need to rely on him later in life.

Dont be fooled, if you think you can rely on him now, then why doesnt he understand you now?

You never know someone until you see exactly what they will or will not sacrifice for you!

I couldn't ask for any body better to be the father of my little boy. My partner would barely let me lift a finger after being 7 months pregnant. He would hold the washing basket for me so I could peg the clothes up, he would clean the bathroom for me, take the trash out, vaccuum and encouraged me to get as much rest as possible. I would still do the dishes and other small things but if I was having a bad day and was extremely tired (I also had diabetes during pregnancy so was constantly lathargic). I was so tired sometimes that I couldn't breathe properly when I walked, a few times I had to ask him to bring the car over because I couldn't make it back to the car. My parents tried to make me use bleach and he stuck up for me, he took care of everything financially to make sure we had everything before he arrived and was by my side whenever I wanted him. I encouraged my partner to go out if he wanted to but he cared so much about our little boy that he didn't want to because it meant he could save money. He even stopped buying take away and made his own lunches!

Show him my story and what other women have to say about their pregnancy and how their partners helped them. Make him see that he is still trying to act like he doesn't have a responsibility and should grow up and do things to help you and your child!

Take him to the medical clinic with you and get the doctor to have a word. He can tell your partner just how much he needs to be around you to support you rather than partying, he should be helping you around the house, he should be using cleaning chemicals not you because it can cause miscarriage and also explain all the different hormone levels.

Grow a female pair of balls to be blunt honey, you need to stand up for yourself and say excuse me, you need to help me out! He has no right to treat you that way and by the sounds of things doesn't sound very mature or ready to act like a father to your baby. Let him know what kind of a man he should be during your pregnancy and if he threatens to leave then unfortunately maybe it's for the better.

I'm not for telling people what to do but he doesn't sound like he's ready for this baby nor emotionally available for you. This isn't about whether you sound like you're worse off than everyone else in the world, this is about you and your baby, about how you're feeling and yes be selfish, this IS all about you! You have the right to say I NEED HELP THIS IS TOO MUCH FOR ME!

He is not a woman, he doesn't know how hard it is! And just because other mothers like to push themselves certainly doesn't mean that you should be able to match it! Every person is different, every pregnancy is different and just because one person can do something, logically speaking doesn't mean everybody can too! That's just like saying "everyone I know, can play basketball, so suck it up you should know how to play too!" I think you are a very sensible woman for wanting to rest and not be too physical nor go out all the time.

Stick up for yourself though girl jeez, this is a baby you're supposed to be raising and let your partner know that this baby is coming whether he is ready for it or not and it's time to grow up and be a man!

this is what i did with my man, when i was 8 months preggy, i gave him a taste of what i was going through for a day. Make him preggy. put two pillows around his bully, and tell him to do what you have to do during the day eg: house work. keep hime busy. And at the end of the day he will be so tired , ask him to take you out. i know what his aswner is going to be. I HOPE THAT HELPS.

My partner was really good, I used to read lots of books and then I would say to him hey listen to what this says. etc....   We got the book "up the duff" by Kaz Cooke it was really quite an easy and funny read and it was one of the books that my partner would read.  

also I would google things and get him to read it.   I dragged him to classes at the hospital so he got an understanding of things.   Also if you don't feel like going out put your foot down and just say no I'm not going but you can go on your own.  Try and get him completly involved in the pregnancy.

   hi!! i know how you feel my honey wants me also to go out and party ..im 38 weeks preggers and it a really hard for me to walk etc..just tell  you dont feel like going out he should understand ..guess dont think like us girls lol..they have a  mind of there own :) but when they get sick..its the end of the world for them ;) hugs liz

I have to admit that I was fairly lucky that my hubby understood and really appreciated the sacrifice I was making to carry our son (17 months old on the 25th Nov).  I was unlucky in that I had just about EVERY pregnancy symptom that exists! My mum joked that they could use me for scientific experimentation and write a book about it all just based on me! LOL! but on the flip side, my Mum had both my sister and I with near perfect pregnancies... she didn't get morning sickness, instead she just felt 'off' in the evenings... me? I was sick 24/7 right the way through although fortunately the upchucks stopped at around 15 weeks with my last hurl right on Christmas Day at Mum's house just prior to Christmas dinner so I didn't get to eat any cos I still felt terrible!

So I can relate to the idea that while 'millions of women have babies', EVERY WOMAN IS DIFFERENT! our bodies all handle this very same experience very differently and our babies grow slightly differently and behave slightly differently - even subsequent pregnancies for the same woman can be totally different... My Aunty had great pregnancies when carrying her 2 girls (eldest and youngest) but then her middle child, a boy, was  NIGHTMARE pregnancy and she couldn't wait for labour as it meant the end of pregnancy... I recall that exact same feeling!

Tell your hubby that if he thinks it's so bloody easy he can do it next time round! and never say never cos you don't know just what technology they'll come up with tomorrow!

Take it easy and look after yourself... the best way to have a healthy baby is by starting with a healthy mum!

i went through a simlar issue with my partner. Men being men there isnt that much you can do as it is impossible for them to fully grasp the extent of what your going through.. although, i went through my pregnancy Q&A Book with him, and showed him what i was going through and what it was potentially doing to my body, this helped as he knew i wasnt making it up or being dramatic!

just explain its his strong child growing inside of you taking alot of your energy etc.. take him along to your docs appointments with you so he can get the docters perspective on things not just your angle.. hope this helps xxx

Take a stack of bricks, put them in a sack, tie it to him and let him walk around like that for a day. If that doesn't work, smack him over the head with it!  Just kidding. Some guys, or some people for that matter, just don't get it. You can try talking to him or getting him more involved in doctors visits, reading books, and birthing classes. Maybe the more he learns the better he'll understand.