I have a 3yo child that is very much like this but the only difference is that my child doesnt rock.  She bites herself  smashes her head on walls floors, she has had stiches in her head and i could go on bec it endless with this child.

I think my child is like this bec she does have to compete with another sibling that is only 12months older than her.

She also has a very strong personality like she is strong and pig headed and really stubbon.

She will scream for hours if something doesnt go her way or just for nuthing, i know its hard and i know you feel that you cant cope anymore but there is alot of methods out the that minti will share to make life a little easier b4 you seeing the specialist.

I find distraction the easiest atm never worked b4 but at the moment its working. I have a plastic croc that makes noise so when she is in her fit ill bring it out and start making that noise to get her attention and that will calm her down until she will sit on me a play with it for a while until she forgets what was making her scream and hurt herself. Then we will play for a while and then she will go off and do her own thing.

Sometimes i just dont have the time may i be on the phone or in the middle of something i have to pick her up and put her in the spare room that has just a bed in it no toys ect 7 out 10 time she will scream herself to sleep.

I hope some people can give you some real great advise and ideas, if you want to minti mail me please feel free and maybe i can give you some more tips  on what i have tried and what i havent.

big hugs Tee

I only know a little but the way you have describedyour daughter sounds like a friend of mine who has a son and acts the same way he was diagonsed with a global development problem i'm not saying that is the case with your daughterbut if it is it may help

Could possibly be 'Tinitus" which is ringing of the ears. I think it definitely is aural problem. Either way it sounds rather serious and needs attention asap

Autism or Aspergers but if she is constantly rocking and hitting herself, more leaning towards Autism. Get your daughter checked out in the meantime explain to her where she is going and what is going to happen before you get there to ease her troubles. When a routine is broken or unforeseen events take place with a child who has autism/aspergers they get frustrated, angry and behave in strange ways. Hurting themselves is their way of dealing with the frustrations and incompleted routine. For example when you're about to take her shopping, explain to her that you're about to put her in the car, you're going for a drive and then we're going shopping together. When we get to the shops, we're just going to get a couple of things and then we can go back in the car and go home. Once the child with Autism knows the event before it happens, it can become a part of their routine. Hopefully this will help you with the behavioural problems temporarily before you see a specialist. I'm 99% sure, autism.

Get her to Paediatrician ASAP. She sound like she's Autistic but without seeing her I wouldnt really know. Have the Pre School call in the local Intervention Centre where they have experts to help your child with aspects of her life and possibly help the diagnosis. Also get a detailed letter about your child from the Centre to give to the Paed as this will help the diagnosis.

My daughter has ADHD and I knew she was different but I also knew roughly why. When it came time for a diagnosis I wrote a letter outlining her, good and bad and got one from the schoolo and gave them to the Paed. We now see a Psychiatrist and I still write what has been happening good and bad so he can see improvements or set backs.

It isnt easy to have a special child but if you dont act a sher advocate no one else will. I can be rewarding but it hard work and you need all the support you can get for the family.

I wish the best and hope you let us know what is going on.

Hmm do you think your little one could be suffering from,  Hyper Sensativity Disorder also known as Sensory Integration/Processing Disorder, some times the child can feel physical distress from this, and turn the frustration inwards in a violent manner.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sensory_Integration_Dysfunction

Either way it would probably be safest to have your little one assessd to rule it out.

I feel for you, it is very distressing to watch your child suffering and feeling unable to sooth.

I hope this helps a little.

Luv Winnie.