I'm guessing your partner is like many men, wanting a surrogate mother and not a wife.  So typical.  Don't get me wrong, there are the occasional gems out there too.

If you are lucky, you will have stopped bleeding by now, but your body is still trying to recover and adjust to the new challenges at hand.

Your partner needs to spend some time with you and your baby to see how hard it really is.  I'm betting he doesn't get up in the middle of the nights for feeds or doesn't even change a nappy.  He needs to start getting involved with his child.

Your libido will come back with time.  Sleep deprivation and the other things that come with a new born will affect your desires.  I know, been 4 months since I had my last baby, and I'm still too tired to entertain hubby.

It is possible that your partner is feeling left out too, which is why he makes comments about you shouldn't be as tired as him.  He needs to feel included.

hi u can do a relation whynot?and 2 let him know how muchtired u r let him stay with ur baby 4 many hours and he will see, and u u should take a break ,but dont miss the milk4 him ,bye

It is normal to feel that way after having a baby. I work day and night shifts and thought I was doing most of the work in our relationship. That is until my de facto girlfriend caught me off guard by telling me on my day off that she was going out, I was going to be looking after the baby and I had a list of her normal every day house work to finish. I soon stopped complaining that it was easy for her. Maybe I should have taken the hint when she told me point blank "After looking after a screaming baby all day then cleaning up after you at night 7 days a week I dont really feel like sex!!" Well I learned my lesson... I helped out around the house more on my days off and we got back on track.

Hi!  I think what you are going through sounds very normal and you are certainly not alone.  Most of us feel like that - I can even go out on a limb here and say that I could count the number of times we "had relations" in the first six months on one hand - much to my husband's disgust!  We were pretty extreme, but then we had a pretty extreme baby (or it felt like!).  WE survived and are very happy five years on but certainly having a baby affects your love life.

You need to talk and explain that caring for a baby is a very tiring thing - it takes a few weeks to recover from birth, plus no doubt you are getting interrupted sleep and if you are breastfeeding that can be tiring too.  You need to look after yourself - make some time for yourself, get some exercise and fresh air, eat well, drink lots, get sleep when you can.  Try and make some time for the two of you to just be together without expectation of anything else - just being together, doing something fun and enjoying the company and talk.

I am sure that in time if you make time for these things, you will still have a good relationship at the end of it and the other will flow.  You will learn that as parents it is not as spontaneous and needs a bit more effort, but it is important to have something special above and beyond being mum and dad.

You poor darling!  What you are feeling is quite normal.  What your partner is feeling is probably normal also.  In the very early days - maybe up to 4-5 months, men often feel at a loose end as the focus is (and has to be) on bub and mum.  Men often feel left out, especially if you are breastfeeding.  And also the bub doesn't 'play' with dad at this stage. Try to gradually bring your partner into this new life and beef up to him the importance of "family" and how his working long hours is really helpful.  Maybe on his days off you could express some milk and take an hour or two out for yourself (even if you only go to the local library) and left your partner to care for your bub.  Make sure it is when bub is awake.  Schedule time with you partner - even if you don't feel like it - maybe start with a discussion on how bub has enriched your lives.

If you happen to still be awake i think it airs on win tv on thursday nights a program called how to have sex after marriage may give you a few clues or tape it for your partner so they can get a clue you don't have to go the full hog often when i was sexually active sorry long time ago(no partner to be active with) i would often satisfy them in other ways when i didn't feel like it often males when stressed feel they need sex but really it just allows them to fully release physically emotionally and psychologically its a power thing but that is only one opinion hope all goes well