Hi,  Take a look at your son's diet and see if there's anything he shouldn't be having in the way of junk foods with loads of additives.  Take a visit to a naturopath and they'll be able to give you heaps of helpful advice.  I'd do medication as a last resort but try everything else I could first.  Maybe give him a little 'special one-on-one' time with mum and as hard as it is try not to give him too much of a reaction from his behaviour, I know...easier said than done.  Count to 10, walk away, sometimes works for me, time out, limiting privilages when naughty.

All the best with it.  :)

Hi,

He is looking for a reaction, and for kids, any reaction is better than none! My 5 year old still carries on like a right royal brat regularly, and it is usually when I am not paying him attention, or he is bored... I would be wary of having him "diagnosed" with ADHD, my friends son was  diagnosed with it ((but my friend refused to put him on the tablets as she doesn't believe in the pills as it is basically legal speed (amphetamines),,, and no one knows the long term effects of it)) BUT it turns out her son DOESNT have adhd, he has aspergers... SO,,, be very careful with doctors as sometimes they don't even know, and there might not even be anything wrong with your son, he may just be a very active child, and looking for attention... Try sitting down doing puzzles with him, or colouring in or just reading to him... My Joe loves being read to, and I usually have to read half a dozen books every night before bed, and that is "our time" when it is just me and him, and he loves it.....

My 2 year old daughter was only a few weeks old, when a complete stranger told me she was a beautiful indigo, my life would be very challenged by this child.. I took no notice, until she was about 12 months when I noticed her energy and learning levels where so different to other children.. It was only when I was in the book shop, looking for something to help me, that I found a book called  "the Indigo Children"  Authors Lee Carroll and Jan Tober, I has completely forgotten my conversation with this complete stranger, until I found this book, after reading it I was extremely satisfied that my child has very Indigo tendencies, I'm so grateful to this book, for the techniques it has given me  are really what your heart wants to do, its just having the confidence, that your family and society will accept you and your child's need for different parenting style .. I only recommend this book to you as it was a huge help for me, please see if you can find it, see if you can find the confidence to parent your child how you really want to.. Good luck... Time out tends to suit us parents, more so than our children, use it, as long as the kids are safe...

I have a four year old girl who drives me up the wall.  She exhibits signs of ADHD, except for one thing, she has very good concentration skills.  That is the biggest indicator.  And yes, she fidgets all the time, is maliciously destructive (so not getting new furniture ever again!!!!!) and back chats no end.  It is normal and once your son is at school, they will be better able to assess him for what is and isn't normal.

4 year olds are most of the time learning their boundaries and will push you as far as they can.I would be very very careful about ADHD many times doctors diagnose ADHD when it is not. ADHD is real and it is nasty and it needs to be treated but when going to a doctor be sure you get at least a second opinion. I would try a change of diet to begin with some foods and drinks set kids off. Do what you think is best not what your family think. In my opinion anyone who is so quick to say a child has and behavioural disorder needs to take a look at what these medications do even to a true ADHD child.

Good luck

 Lexi xxx