I've been through this except my husband was too busy being on call and he hasn't been able to be with me and our dogs.   When I feel that really lonely feeling I pick myslef up and go for a walk with one of my dogs.  I do this twice a day and while walking I  actually can come up with some other things to do.  My husband and I have not been on a vacation in 18 years!!!  The other things I do  are - planted an herb garden from seeds inside the home, read read read.  I've been in the same neighborhood since 1990 and still haven't made friends with anyone near me (sometimes I don't mind being alone).  I used to take another one of our dogs to the elementary school on the next street over and taught her how to go down the slide and climb stairs - she loves it.  I also can reccommend volunteering for a local animal/wildlife orginazation that allow you to bring your child along and teach he/she a bit about caring for needy animals, birds, etc.  sometimes if you volunteer enough and are reliable to be there they will hire you.  It's  like visiting the zoo and getting a financial reward plus your child will start learning more vocabulary and life experience.  You can write me anytime to my username.  I've been trying to find a friend online.

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Hi there well I was recently in the same boat, my husband used to work away alot.  But luckly that all has changed .

Well That I can say is just embrace the moment, it's really nice to notice how your daughter learns things by her self play with her do all sorts of things bang pots together. etc.  Then during the day go for a walk (I don't know how far you stay from parks, shops ) so I would guess reasonably close.

Currently we've just moved to Australia from RSA so yep I dont have friends or family here either, but I started going to the church play groups and went to the park.  Although I do find it rather a challenge to make fri

i sympathise and totally understand where you are coming from, my partner 5 days a week leaves home at 3:30pm and then returns at 3:30 am, if he doesnt pull over and have a sleep on the way home. i dont know where you are, but whre i am is situated 55km from both towns with shops, and as we cannt afford to have two cars filled with petrol willy nilly (sigh) i am basically left at home with nothing and no-one around but my 7mnth old and nearly 4 yo. it can get very lonely as we dont have shops here or many people most people are older with no children so no mothers groups, and no mothers with young children, and all my friends live a long way away and are busy working etc that i hardly catch up with them either. HOWEVER there are ways to stop the isolation craziness, as other people have suggested there are mothers groups depending on the area, there is also chat things (i have never been able to keep up with them), online games are good, animals are also good as they dont talk back, can make you feel safer and are at times quite entertaining lol. i also have redecorated (painting etc) and renovated the house, and learn new recipes. and if you ever want to chat well i am another lonely sole, hope you find something to do that isnt just to kill boredom but is also entertaining, goodluck

Know the feeling my partner used to be a medic in the army. I thought a month or two would be fine and quick but it took me by surprise. I didn't realise just how much my partner was my rock, my emotional support and I found it difficult.

You could find out some local play groups that might be walking distance from your area? You also have everyone on minti who are willing to be your friend and shoulder. You could do a google search on your local area to see what kind of activities are available. You might find a hobby close by that you and your daughter can engage in. There is also plenty to do online like online gaming (you can add me to msn if you want and I'll teach you how to play a few if you're bored). There are also websites like plentyoffish.com where you can look for other mothers close by to make new friendships but if you do be very very careful, not everyone is who they say they are.

i know exactly how u feel its the same 4 me pretty much,my partner is at work all day i have no car and not many family or friends around.i get really bored everyday aswell,but i try 2 go out sometimes with the pram,i walk 2 the shops or to the park.or just busy myself at home with stuff that needs doing dishes,washing etc.u could ring ur local council to find local mothers groups or even look online 4 them.hope this helps :)

I really know how you feel darling. When we came here to Australia, last March i was having the same feeling when my husband started working, he was leaving 7 am and come back home 6 evening, at that time i was pregnant with my little girl Leena, + it was the first time for us here in Australia, so no relatives no friends.

I was reading, watching TV, go shopping in the mall, we have mall in our area infront my home, i was chatting to my friends over seas on the internet, talking to my family.

After delivering Leena, i was so busy with her, you know baby needs alot of care alot of time.

you have your baby, you can enjoy your self with her, you can do alot with her, i take my baby to the play group every thursday, it's really alot of fun to me and to my baby, and there i meet alot of mom, i don't know where r u, i mean in which country, but try to enjoy your self, and don't stay at home, try to find something, so that you don't feel boring.

I just want to say that you are not alone and I know how you feel. What you need to do (as hard as it is) is get out of the house. Find a local child health clinic/nurse which can set you up with a local mother's group and also advise you of local playgroups in the area. That will keep you entertained and with the company of other mums for at least 2 days a week. Secondly if you think that just being a stay at home mum will drive you to the point of insanity or extreme isolation then maybe think about doing a course part time at TAFE (you could do something fun, like art classes, etc.) or you could do some work part-time to help you meet new people and make some friends. The work can even be voluntary and you might be able to bring bubba along. I have a friend who's hubby works in the mines who flies in and out often and when her little girl was a newborn she was left alone for months. The poor darling felt just like you but she had us Mum's from her Mother's group to help her out, she then joined a playgroup on a separate day to meet new Mum's and she now works 2 days a week so she gets a break from her daughter and is able to have a bit of adult-time. Also if you feel like you are getting worse, seek professional help! I let my isolation and loneliness get so bad that I never left the house anymore and now I work with a social worker, psychologist and a psychiatrist (so all my tips that I've given you are coming from the mouths of experts as this is all the advice they've given me)! Also familiarise yourself with public transport in the area. It's daunting at first and especially scary with a bub but once you've done it once you will be so much more confident and won't feel so isolated. And lastly stay on the net - socialise with other Mums on groups just like this and you may be able to meet some other Mums in your area that you can catch up with. I'm in Perth, Western Australia if you ever want to catch up. So as you can see there are plenty of Mums here to help and I'm sure you'll get plenty of replies to your question. Good luck sweetie! I really hope this helps!!