That would drive me nuts you poor thing!! The first time my parents tried to say anything negative about my partner I pretty much laid down the rules and said I would not tolerate it. Just like the first time his parents did not invite me over for a family dinner (we had been dating for 2+ years so I only assumed I would be a part of the family by then) and he put his foot down and said he wouldn't be attending. When they asked why, all he said was because Mel is and will always be a part of this family whether you like it or not so you better start treating her that way and including her or you will have a lot of family functions without me. They had made no effort to get to know me. After putting his foot down, they started to talk to me and realize I wasn't such a bad person after all. I am now invited to every family function. I should hope so anyway now that we're engaged.

If it's time to have Christmas at your house this year then maybe your hubby needs to put his foot down and tell his mother that this year It's at your house and if she does not want to make an appearance then unfortunately he won't be attending because he already has plans.

I disagree with her anyway. I believe parents should come to you for Christmas, especially since you have a family and plans of your own now.

I know how you feel! I had to battle in-laws when I was seeing a younger guy and it was just awful..Especially the Mum, she thought that her little baby still nedded mothering and tried to compete with me for his attention. OH the tantrums she would through if she felt he was considering my opinion more than hers BLAH BLAH BLAH. I let her have it her way in the end. I found it was easier to allow her to fell she was having the final say and things were done her way. I would also do my own thing and make sure she always new she was welcome to attend. Sometimes she would have a litlle "whats wrong with my party/dinner" cry time over it...But I just said I woudl love to do her thing and would be there with bells on, but needed to my thing with my family'friends also! It made it just a little bit easier. Hope that helped

As long as you are with her son, then she is always gonna be there... does your hubby know how she is making you feel? Talk to him about how his mum makes you feel and dont go out of your way with her. You and her son have your own lives to lead and she needs to be told that. Being the same age is probably why she is the way she is, you are both on equal ground and she probably doesnt like that.

Hope that helps and stay strong!

Peace

Hannah