how do help yr friends understand that when there kids r sick they should let u know before the visit so that you can say yes or no to them comming over
I suppose it depends on whether they bring their sick kids with them. If they do, then just say to them it is not a good idea. If they show up, tell them that you aren't prepared to have their sick kids around you and your family and that it is unfair that they would expect you to.
It sounds to me like you are the type of person who doesn't seem to know what the word NO means. Once you are able to say it, then they will understand it. Be firm and fair,and everyone will be happy. If they don't like it, then they weren't a true friend to begin with.
Definately tell them upfront "Look, I know it is easy to forget but my little ones seem to catch everything so if your kids are sick could you tell me before you visit? Thanks."
If they're offended, they aren't a real friend. My friends always tell me and vice versa- even those that don't have kids so in my mind, it is common courtesy.
"I don't want to sound mean or rude, but can you do me a favour and please let me know if your kids are unwell before I come to visit so that I can make an informed choice as to whether or not I should expose my kids to any illnesses. I wouldn't bring my kids to your place if they were sick in case your kids caught something from them, cause kids do that and looking after sick kids is hard as you well know, and I'd appreciate the same courtesy, I'm sure you're wise enough to understand that. I'm just asking if you could let me know, okay?"
Blunt, not rude, requesting rather than demanding, and appeals to their empathy and common sense. Worth a try.
Just tell them straight up that it is a difficult time and that you need privacy or prior notice. You probably need a hand if they come over too, so they can either watch the kids while you have a shower and relax with a cuppa, or do your dishes etc while you look after the kids... Otherwise, they should wait for you to INVITE them over.
LOL, I got it backwards like Alice in the Looking Glass!
Yeah, they should let you know, who wants to catch stuff or have your kids catch stuff. Though if you don't have kids that could catch something, you could stay and offer to give a hand.
I Don't know sorry, my friends are usually quiet good and tell me b4 hand. If its just a cold I'm not really too fussed cos he is bound to catch it sooner or later but if its gastro or something more serious, I will try to avoid it. I guess just asking straight out is the way to go!
Maybe ask flat out how their kids are feeling before going over if it's an ongoing problem, I have a friend like that, and it's hard, so I ask her straight out most of the time.
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