You need to sit down with your mum and have a good heart to heart and tell her how you are feeling she propably means well and doesn't realise that you are not a little girl anymore and that you are very capable of looking after yourself and your familyy and managing your own life, some parents have trouble lettting go and can not get themselves out of that Parent knows best mode. You shouldn't let her negative thoughts get to you so much you know you are a very capable mother and worthwhile person. If your Mum is comparing you to your sister their isn't much you can do about it and if you look back it has probably always been like this. This is how is has been with my sister and I can honestly say it doesn't bother me I just get on with my life and any negatives thoughts from my Mum I just brush off. I think because they are so much alike they think along the same lines and that's fine I am the complete opposite to my sister she is happy for Mum telling her what to do and I just do my own thing and if she tries to interfere I just say I'm fine I know what I am doing and she just backs off.

hi my name is toni I to have the same prob I havent spoken to my mum in almost 6 year's I have 2 great sisters but we dont get to speak very often my mum loves them both they live near her but I had to take my children away as she doesnt think Im to great a mum but my kids love me & they have all grown up to be the best they can be & more they call me every nite to say they love me my 8 year old is my shining star . Who says we aint normal you dont have to prove to any 1 but your self just love your self we have all made mistakes I bet she did it takes honesty to admit them so you go girl 

                                             xx toni

ok firstly, who knows you better as a parent....ur mum & sister or ur hubby. my bet the answer is ur hubby.... LISTEN TO HIM.

with your mum critising you all the time. IGNOR IT. my reason for saying this is you need to be there for your hubby and kids and not her. I refuse to see my mum as she is like that with me. Always putting me down, my parenting and my life, she also when ever I see her asks when I am leaving my hubby (she hates him) and tells my kids their dad is a loser. (which he isnt)

what the ppl who are your friends say is more important than anything else.

dont wait around for words that will never come cause you will only get hurt more.

If you feel you are that bad, as ur mum says see a councilor.

Oh and no one is perfect, no matter what anyone says.